By this DV law we are inching more towards western family norm.This law which has been borrowed heavily from US and English law admits live-in partner and reduces the sacred relation ship of family to 'domestic relationship' which we share even with our pet dogs and cat.This law is good for western homes where the women change their husbands like their dress every now and then.In India we are married for life and here both husband and the wife sacrifice their freedom to build a better home.After going to court and this law will lead us to more broken homes more battered life , more orphan houses and bitter and battered family life.The law has been conceived by the so called socialite of Delhi and Mumbai who believe in Club and Pub culture sans Indian ethos and sacrifice.Oh God they do not know what they are doing! God bless this country!!
RE:Right law ay wrong place
by kkp on Nov 12, 2006 05:26 AM Permalink
Hey PARAM..where are you heading on to...what bullshit abotu mean not being sensitive to women did you read it from...do you know 498A one the the most cruel laws ever to be passed(Dv act beat it btw), was passed by our parliament when 95% members were men. Even today when our parliament has more than 90% male memebers, there was no difficulty passing this law in the brutal form it is. If you have ever gone to our courts(where supposedly justice is delivered) most of our family courts are called women courts behind the curtains...all lawyers agree to it...all judges know for themsleves how partial are they to women... For you to crib with your foolish logicless statements, just tells me how shallow you are and how mean can you(or could have) been to your your husband(prospective and family. May God save the family who dares admit you in their house.
I am surprised..all these men who r so insecure b'coz of this law never rose to the Occassion when WOMEN were being tortured,harrassed 'n insulted for ages..........!! How come they all feel so insecure NOW 'n think women r goin' to take revenge?? After being harrassed for ages women finally get a way out to escape from such miseries 'n ALL u men can think of is UR safety?? Why is that no man ever showed any consideration 'n stand up for some woman being harrassed,insulted,raped,being ripped off of her clothes 'n was forced to march down naked in front of many?? Where were all of U guys then?? Think of this as a rescue for UR SISTERS too who cud' face the same fate. 'n Who F***** cares to have a relationship with such men anyways???If a man harrasses a woman she shud' have every God Damn Right to put him behind bars 'n move on with her life 'n find another man.Don't be scared if women r finally gettin' some voice,be a part of this movement 'n help make our INDIAN society better.Believe me not every woman is mean just like every man is not a rapist. Now I am really proud to be an INDIAN!!It's easy to fight an enemy outside home BUT it takes courage to stand up against ur OWN!!
Either you are too immature or trying to be naive. What men of past generations did...surely wrong...how do you expect us to stand up for their violence when we were not even born in this world?
Either you are exaggerating on women being abused [donkey years ago], or generalizing for the heck of it, or have not been aware of the living of the past 30-40 years.
Why are YOU scared to have an unbiased & genuine law that VALIDATES for EITHER GENDER to be AGGRIEVED or ACCUSED? Don't want to be fair? well then...it proves you are one of them..revenge-oriented!!
RE:Domestic violence law explained.
by PEACEFUL MOON on Nov 03, 2006 11:43 PM Permalink
Dear Lady(or shd you be called u a libbed woman),
This law is for benifit of your ilk, I think you know the alternate term GOLD DIGGERS, be happy you have the might of a govt.(which is scared to save a rape victim from a FATWA) and whole lot of frustrated harridans (otherwise known as activists)behind you.
RE:Domestic violence law explained.
by vikas on Nov 04, 2006 04:32 AM Permalink
true,it needs lots of courage to fight the enemy within and when that enemy is supported illogically t needs more determination and grit to fight back,just think that your brothers wife can file a case against you but u cant,she can file a case against ur mom but ur mom cant,she cant get ur old father ordered to stay out of home for she fears him,rape is bad and ugly and I condemn it but the way this act has been put together,families would be raped emotionally,socially,financially. its not a question of male or female,its a question of family and values,its a question of future of children,its a question of knowing how to handle power.perhaps you dont have a family to think on these lines. of the 39 women i talked to 37 say the law is antiwomen. take down your feminist goggles,think.
RE:Domestic violence law explained.
by Adarsh on Nov 06, 2006 01:03 PM Permalink
Dear Lady, First you should hold your keyboard and correct your language. Is this the way a lady talks. May be you are a spoilt brat and this law is going to help women like you immensely. It is you kind of women who abuse these kinds of open ended laws and not the rural women who are really in need of it. Where your argument is concerned, who do you think social reforms like Raja Rammohun Roy, Vivekananda and Mahatma Gandhi were. Were they not men who fought for women's rights? Are there any equivalent women reformers of the time who did the same? You are an idiot and a non-rationalistic feminist who want to break a million homes in the garb of fighting for women's rights. What about the mother in law and sister in law who will be penalised intensely if the law is abused. In fact the law is a misnomer. It is better to call it the Pampering of Daughter in law Act (PDA). Today's India would be better if we get rid of three things, namely corrupt politicians, anti-national elements and feminist to the core like you. May God save the country from these contageous elements.
RE:Domestic violence law explained.
by Swathie on Apr 23, 2008 11:38 AM Permalink
Dear Param,
It is wrong to say that menof today who are not even born are responsible for wrongs done in the past. This laws are clearly being misused. There is no doubt about it. More than 98% of cases are false and done for money only.
will this abuse on men help harassed women? Definitely not. So uncrupolous women are misusing these laws to the detriment of needy and good women. See, in my own case my sister in law has filed a false dowry case and DV law on 18 members of family. She has stayed with us for 12 hours and did not want to say in a joint family and filed these cases for money. One woman is allowed to harass 6 innocent women. Do you think this is fair?
Also, men will rise up against abuse in time and as a collective society women will be in much worse state than ever. All right thinking men and women must ask for punishment if it is proven that the cases filed are false. Why are these feminists afraid?
This is a totally biased law, perhaps construted by aggrieved women only. After the women awareness of equality of rights, many women have anyways started abusing situations and laws made for actually those in need. This empowerment will encourage more the women to abuse and perhaps take revenge of what the other women in decades may have gone through. But, are we in today's generation to blame for it? No!!..then why make a law for innocents to suffer and culprit minded to prevail....
In fact there is tremendous increase in metro cities of women being behind domestic violence and men being the aggrieved.
I have a few examples of ppl known to me...aprt from me being one of the aggrieved too...
Am a Sr. ctzn. Got only son married (arngd, no dowry), girl wanted a Euro honeymoon for lack of time son settled for SE Asia. Minutes after marriage ceremony girl declare she will like to remain independent, and forbade husband even to touch her on eve of honeymoon before boarding plane. After coming back, within weeks she declares she accepted an outstation job (without knowledge of husband and with a threat from her parents of her possible suicide if her decision not acceptable to husband) Obviously marriage was unconsummated. Total duration of her stay with husband was for less than 30 days. It became clear it was a calculated fraud, with the girls family as accomplice. Before she left,was asked to take back her jewellery etc. with her (her father initialed receipt), a divorce petition was filed; the girl and her parents are unavailable to receive court notice in all known address. Now with this law I think the fraudsters will have a field day. Mind u girl wkg. with the best-known Indian s/w co. her father PSU officer, not a family with shady background or no education. This law will help frauds and blackmailers not victims of DV. Hail DV 2006 LAW.& tireless activists.
DV act is a loosely drafted law only in favour of wives.I strogly disagree that it is in favour of women,or children,only the wife is favoured in a irrational way.I just want to ask Renuka chawdhary,what would she do if her sister in law uses this law,forces her brothers and father to stay out of thier own house,gets all male members of the family banned from entering the house and harass Renukas mother thrugh her maika walas? where is the security for the women of the house hold? where is the security for the sisters and old mother of the husband? he cant stop anyone who pretends to be helping his wife from entering his house,sitting in his own bedroom,moving around in his house at odd times. is this the idea of domestic harmony? was 498a inadequate to harass the family of husbands? it clearly shows that we are being controlled by people who are irresponsible,irrational and anti nation.
Contd... 4. By enacting this law, the government has taken upon itself the responsibility of saving women from domestic violence rather than making man more responsible for it. Thus a man would have less responsibilities if he is a bit more cautious towards his live in partner and the government would have more responsibility towards its citizenry. A government which is infected with the viruses of corruption, incapability and plethora of other problems like terrorism, population explosion, unemployment etc. can never be trusted for saving the lives of half a billion women in the country. This law would in fact create funny situations like on one hand; an innocent husband would be in jail for not giving in to unreasonable demands of his wife and in laws while on the other hand terrorists, traitors, conspirators and criminals like Md. Afzal and Abu Salem would roam free; rather enjoy all kinds of political patronage. On the whole, the enactment of this law seems to be the handiwork of international conspirators, feminists and our gullible, west aping women leaders. This law mainly aims to break our homes and family values; thereby bringing social unrest in the country. -Adarsh
Do you think a women can continue staying with the same person (married life) after sending him to prison on this act? This law is helpful for those who encounters continuas torture mainly of physical or mental means from male partener and if she decided to terminate the merrital relationship with that person.
This can also helpful for those womens who want to harrase her husbend or inlaws with support from her parents... by misusing this law.(Possible when girls familiy is influential than boys familiy.
So this act has no helpful to prevent domestic voilence until unless if we change social status of women in the society.
