Children are your guest! Treat them well :-).First understand that we have no rights over them and they came to us not that because we wanted them or they wanted, but the god or the nature decides and realtes the particular child to us... Do you think that you can change thier attitude or behaviour because of your rules and regualtions ??hmm if you think yes, then you are immatured and havenot understood the meaning of life....Through your logical mind and think spritually, you will get a answer.
RE:Never Beat your Children!
by Ram on Jun 25, 2007 06:30 PM Permalink
Do we know our responsibilties at first??? what is responsibility? taking care of the parents ??earning money ? being a decent citizen ?? What the word responsibilities means ?? We can guide them the way of good path but we shouldnot force them, impose anything on them ??Thats whatthe goverment says,western society says and even our old(gold) vedhas taught us...First we need to educate ourselves before talking about the children and thierlife style, thiers responsibilties.....
Indians are insensitive to the children and vent off all their anger, frustration and apathy towards children by indulging in beating. Going by that even molestation takes place in some homes. All this gets covered up matter and goes unreported. A law like this should be an eye opener for the parents who make the children become hostile and vulnerable to all the abusive environment. How can one expect the kids better civilised than their parents if they are abused badly by their parents? Many parents think it is their natural right but never bother to look at responsiblity - a root cause of this display of anger.
I think the Judiciary is thinking TOO HIGH of themselves.
Rather than doing what they are supposed to do
.. Attend to all the Millions of cases dragging on for decades( if not more ).. Attend to the Millions languishing in Jails without Trails... Attend to the basic and inherent faults and lacunae in their own system ( as exposed in the BMW Expose of NDTV)....
....they are trying to ACT Oversmart and Become POPULAR by resorting to SUCH GIMMICKS.
They are trangressing into the Parent- Child domain which is absolutely personal and private.
RE:Going Overboard!!!
by Antony Selvaraj on Jun 25, 2007 06:48 PM Permalink
Very true, the Judiciary is Sleeping on cases for years , but then "Spanking your kids" is totally wrong, there is no doubt about that, Mr Dutta can you tell me who on earth is going to take care of some of these issue had it not been for the Judiciary. So there is no harm in what the Judiciary is doing, Right
What would you do, when your child just roll arround the middle of the road for the ball that you unable to purchae and give?
There has to be differnce between hitting the child to vent ones frusturation in marriage or family life and the corrective measure to descipline them.
Akbar asked Beerbal, "why the child is crying in this court?" Beerbal replied the child was asking for the swing. Then the swing was given to the child after some time the child cried again. He was given with elephant and the child stopped crying and playing with the elephant. After some time the child cried again. When the King asked his minister why the child is crying again. The Minister replied " Now the child want the elephant to be put on the swing!!!". What can one do in such a situation?
RE:Are we go American way!
by Parikshit Navgire on Jun 25, 2007 06:02 PM Permalink
i hope not even an enemy of mine gets a parent like you. you spank him now he will spank you later in your old age. The very arm twisting techniques you will be applying on your child he will apply it on you.
RE:Are we go American way!
by gurmeet singh on Jun 25, 2007 06:19 PM Permalink
everybody know this story.when akbar and birbal had applied all their mind and not able to satisfy the child. his poor and illiterate mother had come forward, and had drawn the elephant on piece of paper and put on the swing. the child was satisfied . the moral is ther are always other wiser means to teach or give lessons to children.
I think if children becomes victims, then it is wrong. But I also think it is good to disciplne our children when it is neccessary. it deos not mean one need to hit or beat a child with anger and cruelty. My father used to beat whenever I did nauty in my chilhood, I sill remember, after which he used to take me out and buy some thng I like and then explain to me why did he disciplined. Now when I look back I do not think it hurted me so much. and I think they help me to become good citizen of India. Western countries like America controlled over so much on individualism, where it may work out and where they even seperate little kid and allow them grow alone. I think in estern culture, especially India will not work out such system becuase we value in our family bindings and believe in discipline each other and so forth. At the same time, if any parents deliberately abusing a child must consider it. But such rules like if any parents spank a child should get punishment not relevant and not easy put in paractice.
RE:Be Balanced
by Parikshit Navgire on Jun 25, 2007 06:04 PM Permalink
they are inside due to an entire different reason. don't come with that rubbish again and again.
Before you go to beat you children,kindly count 10 of your mistakes. For all these mistakes beat yourself. Then come to a conclusion whether to beat him/her or not. First be an example to children. What ever they is,learnt things from you. So be role model. Your problem is solved
RE:Dear Parents
by Parikshit Navgire on Jun 25, 2007 06:06 PM Permalink
you said it!!!! action speaks louder than words. A child will follow your tracks. As parents you are a default role model for that child
Every child needs to be disciplined at some point, but beating is not the way. A child can not differentiate between good and bad h/she has to be taught but not by beating or scolding them. Some time we do need to smack a child to show them that what ever they are doing is wrong. The only a simple harmless little slap or may be a smack on the bottom, but not as hard that the finger mark stays on their body for days. Those parents who do that kind of beating are criminals and should be prosecuted. Sit down devote some time towards the child involve them with you teach them the behaviour that is required to be and grow up as good children%u2019s. Don%u2019t just dump them in front of the telly and both the parents just sit and do there own business. In that way the child gets ignored all the naughty things the child do is to seek attention to tell the parents we are also here talk/chat/play with us as well, but don%u2019t just beat us because we interrupted your routine. Beating is not the answer. Try that in Europe and the parents will get punished and the child will be put in care and the parent will have to prove that they are fit to have them back at home if not then they will be fostered for ever.
