I've been dating this girl for 6 years off and on.... two breaks and that is it.... this time it's not because of either of us.... it's her dad..
We have been dating again for literally 4 days shy of one year.... the first 9 months of the relationship were amazing when we were allowed to see eachother.... Don't get me wrong.... I love this girl more then anyone in the world.. She is what makes me feel like a whole person... everytime, even before we were together, i felt like there was a hole in my life that wasn't filled. She fills that void in my life because i can feel, see, and sense all of the love from her..... Her dad has been a huge part of why we haven't always worked.... Her dad has said to her specifically that he doesn't want to lose her yet.... She's about to turn 19 and doesn't want to leave on bad terms with her family.... But the current situation is just power for him to say that she can't see me.... The way everything goes with her family is very complicated... she loves her dad and doesn't want to disrespect him.... cause he's family... and i understand that.... but her dad shut me out of her life....
I took two hits of weed and she doesn't like me doing drugs.... she got really down.... her dad interrogated her basically for 2 hours to see why she was down and she ended up just telling him what i did..... He had an opportunity with a justification to do it.... so he did.... He told her that as long as she was living under his roof, that she wasn't allowed to see me... It's been about a week since he did this and i can't take life anymore.... i can't hang out with my friends cause they are all couples.... i can't go out into public cause i only notice people holding hands and just having fun with people that they truly love..... It's the most depressing time in my life.... Her and I broke up yesterday because we both know it will be too hard to handle this waiting till she moves out...
I just want to be with her... i just want to be able to lay down in her lap watching a movie and be able to stare up at her and have her look back at me... Whenever i look into her eyes like that, i see all the love she has to offer, all the feelings she has for me... they pour out of her soul and into mine and make me feel like the best person in the world..
This post isn't so much for advice..... but as to cherish love if you have it..... don't let it go over stupid things.... trust the person you love.... if you can feel that they love you.... then love them back and don't torment yourself....... just have fun with them.... love them forever.... if you have true love.... don't let it get away.... and if you have to take a break from one another..... try to stay up.......... don't let the world get you down.... don't do what i do...... don't just be depressed about everything.... i can't help but listen to songs that remind me of her... i can't help crying about her.... i miss her more then anything in the world.......
Never let love slip through your fingers.... fight for it... do whatever you can to keep it.... love will make you the happiest person when you have it.... but it will hurt you the most when you don't have it anymore... it may take a while to finally hit you... but it will when you lose it........ Love everyone you can... have friends, have family.... but always have that special someone who makes you feel like a child inside..... makes you feel like nothing in the world could brind you down when you spend time with them..... Love them with no regrets... love them and do things for them that will make them smile and laugh.... do eveerything you can to make love stay with you..........
I love her more then anything in the world....... and all i can do right now is wait..... it will take months... but she's worth years of my life... i've already waited 6....... she's the love of my life.... i will never let her go as long as her and i both are living...
Tyler Davis Tyeece_and_blt@yahoo.com thanks for reading..... live, love, smile, laugh, cry, die
Guess the best solution to heart-break is to convince oneself that he/she actually didnt love you at all...and there's no point in thinking about someone who doesn't want you in his/her life...ya you do feel bad that a steady relationship you thought was bliss has just burst and your left in no-man's land...but you certainly dont want to force yourself on that person, do you? the problem is that some of us, in a relationship, start living for the other person...thats where the mistake lies according to me...we tend to forget "me,myself"...thats why the "lost" feeling when the axe falls.
Hey Katie, I read your story and just wanted to tell you I understand and my heart goes out to you.The very same thing happened to me that you are going through. My husband of 7 years left for the third time 3 days ago. I took him back after the cheating, lying and disrespect. He left me and our 3 girls for this other girl and is suppose to have a 4 month old baby by her.I attempted to move on and pick up my life. I was just blessed to buy my own house and he asked to come back. Then as I said three days ago this girl called my phone and told me they had slept together that day while I was at work and she demanded to him while I was sitting there to choose whose house he was going to live at. He looked me dead in my face and told her he was coming home to her.I thought I was going to scream my heart hurt so bad. I had given him my all and we have known each other since I was 12 and he 13 we are now 28 and 29. When someone betrays us like we have been betrayed it terrible.I trust in Jesus and I believe him for the miracle of my healing and believe as He is elevating me. My husband and his malicious girlfriend will go down.
Me n my girl have been together...were together for 3 years...a week ago today everything was fine and i was in heaven...then a week ago tomorrow she said we needed to talk....she simply came over and said she didn't love me anymore and wanted to experience being single again...trouble is we have a baby together...and i love her so damn much, i been getting all kinds of advice this past week...stay strong, keep your head up...but all from ppl who haven't experienced what i'm going through...shes not my life, shes a part...nah man, she is my life...i cant deal with this, she always told me she loved me more than anything in this world and that shed never leave me or hurt me, now i have to go through this...i cry constantly, the smallest thing reminds me of her, i cant even control my tears in public, somethingll remind me of her n i break down in tears...when we talk now shes always finding a way to get mad at me, to yell at me n bring me down more, even now i cry tears for her, just typing this thinking bout her, i define love as not being able to live without someone, and i love her, i cant live without her, i just wanna go away and die somewhere, yet shes doin fine its killing me
RE:Heartbreak
by kim on Aug 30, 2006 04:45 AM Permalink
hi, although it seems that she doesnt care and shes perfectly a-ok, she obviously does still care. she has a child with you so that means that she will have her/his best intrests in mind and she would want to have you as their father. although im only young, i have found out that drastic measure of even talking about not wanting to be here will only make the situation worse. you need to show her that u can get your life on track and if the only role u can play in her life is the father to her child, thats better than nothing and it is giving you a litle bit of hope.
RE:Heartbreak
by KIESHA on Oct 20, 2006 02:40 AM Permalink
Hi Darryl, I know what you are going through.Tolove someone that much and to feel like she just ripped your heart out. I even know about her anger towards you even when she was the one to end things.My husband talks to me very angry, he curses at me and says hurtful things.At first this confused and hurt me it still does because I had given him my all for over half my life. Please don't say things like you want to die even though I know what you mean because I have said the same thing. When ever you feel like that please pray. Prayer can and will change things. Also don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you hurt or sad or angry I feel like at this point that gives them some twisted sort of satisfaction and she will even try at some poilnt to use this to her advantage.She will go out and do her thang and when things go bad for her she will run back to you because she knows you love her and will do anything to have her back.Trust me when I tell you that will make her worse.She will begin to go in and out of your relationship because she will use your love to take her back.Then BEST advise I got was from my Aunt she told me to let my husband golet her go & she will come backright
My gf is on the verge of breaking r-ship with me. Its a 86 days old relationship. She wants to break away because of my habit. I have habit of telling lies. I lie at small capacity. till date she has caught me lieing 4 times. She doesnt think im trustworthy. she wants to go away from me... she will take a decision on this on feb 20th 2006. I dont want to lose her for my stupid habit. i have changed now... i have sweared not to lie anymore.. i want her back..friends pls pray for me.... i want to get back to her... she is the best thing happ to me... i dont want to lose her..
My relationship ended nearly 6 months ago with the first boy i ever fell in love with. i decided that i wanted to go away for college and he was always determined that he would travel. although its 5 months since we last saw each other, i still think about him everyday. i still cry when i think about him and even though im at the beginning of a new r'ship, im not sure if i can go through with it. i always thought we would be together and although we'r apart, each of our friends still tell us that we ask about each other. the thing is, even if i did see him again, although i want to be with him, i dnt know if it's a good idea to let myself. he broke my heart badly and if he hurt me again i dnt think i could love someone else. its too hard. if i am lucky enough to find someone in the future, i believe that i will always compare that person to my first love. im not sure if time is a healer, i just think that we have to force ourselves to believe that we can love another, but never be in love with anyone other than that first love. i wish this wasnt true but maybe thats just life!
Hi,i'm 20yrs old guy.I was in a very passionate loving relationship with my girl friend for one and a half year.Everything was simply fantastic till summers of this year in May.She had to leave for a 15 day trip to Darjeeling.The day she was to come back to bombay, i had to leave bombay for some work,so i couldn't even see her face when she returned.On talking with her that night,i was all excited but she did seem so excited to talk with me after a break of 15 days. Next day she striked with the most murderous news.She had fallen in love withe some other guy whom she met in the trip.I was 250kms away from bombay..sitting all alone and crying whole nights long till eyes went dry. My ears were hearing the grim news but my heart was simply not ready to accept the fact.But it was true.I didn't feel like coming to bombay and returned after another 10 days.It seemed as an end of my life, all my dreams, my ambitions were shattered in tiny pieces within few seconds,just as a ceramic gets crushed under bull dozer.Life looked purposeless. But then i stood strong against the tragedy and viewed it as blessing in disguise.I no longer think abt her.Get-in-touch at rhythm_ultimate@yahoo.co.in
Hi...my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years has just broken up with me. He went off to college about 1 1/2 years ago out-of-state. We kept contact and still tried to stay together. He cheated on me twice...and a lil bit ago has told me this girl was pregnant...and he thought she had had an abortion but she lied about it. So...I needed my space just to think to myself of what was going to happen.
I love him more than anything...and he cheated about a year ago. Things are so torn apart including me. He broke up with me because he said he didn't know how he felt...then he told me he wanted to break up because he is not in love with me anymore but still loves me...and he wants to try and work things out with this girl. Please help or talk...the pain hurts so much. I feel stupid for forgiving him and taking him back those times...and stupid for even thinking twice about it being able to work with him having a child by her. He says people fall out of love just as quickly as they fall in...i just don't see how this is right he even said it isn't but maybe one day i'll understand. I feel so lost and torn apart..just shattered.
RE:i need help
by JoJo on Nov 12, 2006 10:55 AM Permalink
Hi,just by your words I could tell that you really need help to cope with what you are going through. Maybe by hearing a bit of what I went through might help. I'm a 24 yr. old guy who once lived as what I use to think was heaven and yes, it all disappeared. She took my dreams and along with that,my SON. As much as I begged her to come back, she didn't. It's been 2 yrs. I still live alone, haven't seen my son. Do I miss her? yes. Do I want her back? NO, not at all. Love hurts, it can and it will make people suffer, yet that is not it's intention. That's a weakness we all have. So why does this happen? To make you strong. Life has taught me lots of things, this is one of them, use your weakness to make you strong. All these people know what I'm talking about we all went thruogh it. Does it get to us thats easy now if someone leaves us. I DONT THINK SO!!! At first we cried, that was then but, now our feelings are stronger. If your boyfriend left for a while, it's ok, he wants to test his real feelings towards you but, always be prepared if he doesn't come back. The keyword to this, is , PATIENCE. Trust me, time is doing is job. So is God!!!!!! Soon, you will be happy! Smile always
Best way is to overcome over the heartbreak is to fall in Love again with another person...Thats the best approch what I think....But this time u should be careful that u wont get involved completely because otherwise it will affect u again....
