yes, i do have anger issues. frequently i feel like smasing someone's head against a wall or just slash someone's throat. but i havent done either yet. need to box someone soon.
RE:anger
by Rishi Chopra on Jul 18, 2006 08:59 AM Permalink
Hema, Same is the case with me. I am usually very quite & cool, but if some one takes me for granted( even if my dear ones ) I can not control my self, It ( anger ) goes on for days.If you find a solotion,please let me know & guide me.
I am very tolerant most of the time. I get angry only when it someone hurts me emotionally or when i get the feeling that i am being taken for granted. When i get angry i react by first getting touchy about everything. i am used to bottling up my anger. i feel miserable. i get weepy. i dont know how to address the issue. i get irritated at the smallest of things. And then i hate myself for reacting the way i did.
It's true that we get hurt by others act, but better we shud learn not to get ignore that and at the same time shud not allow people to sit on our head.
What happened to Zidane himself? It's b'cos of all his temper France lost their chance for Worldcut in last few minutes, right? Ofcourse materazzi is the real culprit in this issue, but Zidane shud've been more proffessional as his resposibilty is not only about himself but the whole team itself. Also, when we make our weakness apparent to the opponent they'll try to take advantage on that. I personally feel that MAterazzi tried to do that............
Same applies to all........ We shud be able to control our anger or whatever negative emotions and be patient. Ofcourse tough to practice, but has many advantages if we cud practice this........
RE:anger
by bansal on Aug 01, 2006 01:01 PM Permalink
hi shuchi i dont know how lod are u, but here i would like to advice u never get angry with them who loves you or u love too. when ever u are foing to angry with anone once think about the days u spent with them,what they did for youin life, mean would they deserve to face yr anger in entire world nothing is perfect and nothing in not nonrecoverable every thing takes it own ime and place. in life try to accept the things becouse the world can not move as your mindset. cose anger start from that point when u expect some thing in different ways finally all the best shuchi
RE:anger
by fazil vn on Jul 19, 2006 10:43 AM Permalink
hi suchi, Angry is the worst of all expresions.If u do lot of things correct in firm or in your home, finally if u get angry, it is gone.I am an angry fellow n bcoz of this i lost lot of precious things.It will b our love or care to others and if they do wrong,it wil b coming out in form as anger>But most time they wil interpret it as our selfishness or possesiveness and wil keep away from us.U can reduce it by thinking human values more than material values..saying others the bad effects of their deeds with love rather than shouting with anger ..And finally and to the most praying to God>just think the result if GOD is angry at u...Be calm...Wish u all the best...Spread love :Angry multiplies enemies and love it divides... Sgned fazil
RE:anger
by tasneem on Jul 18, 2006 05:34 PM Permalink
hi prachi i m suffering from the same problem as u r , so i can understand u. i m also a perfectionist and cant tolerate injustice and thats the reason even if i m correct but the way i react to situation and the circumstances that people find my fault and the end i think i m guilty of the whole issue. one think i would suggest u is love ur children and ur husband and try to think of good things and good times spend with them when u r angry on them or anybody else.i think it works so u also try it out. i m very fortunate in this case as i have got extrmely loving,caring and understanding hubby.good luck to u.tasneem.
I get angry on very petty reasons also. actuall i am myself a perfectionist. i can't tolerate anything wrong anywhere, not even b my servant and children. then till i spill it out at that person ,my anger does not subside. at times i feel that the intensity of anger was too much, but can't control.
RE:anger
by kavitha on Aug 01, 2006 12:36 PM Permalink
thanks a lot Ali.. many people around me say...angry is the only negative thing about me...i have been struggling to overcome it...so i found ur suggestions really good
By clicking on this link, You have taken the first step towards controlling anger
As the elders said "When you are angry, you dont control yourself but the Satan controls you" Hence dont give your control in the hands of a third party which deviates you from acheiving your goals.
First try and calm youself down (100's of ways..) and beleive firmly that you can handle this matter more wisely and more effectively by thinking in peace about it and not when you are angry.
Thus you will be able to understand the issue in its full complexity and take right actions.
You will overcome your opponent (Chances are much much better..) in a sensible, respectable way which he/she will not be able to run around with.
And sometimes you may also understand their viewpoints and take a justified action.
Tips: 1) Dont generalise people 2) Think positive about people 3) They are all human beings like us.... (Think from their perspective before making judgements) 4) Keep eye on your goal and dont get carried away by events distracting you
i think in some situation we need to make openent understand that we should not be taken for granted. And at that situation i personally like to show my emotion to openent. And i believe there is no harm doing in such matter but off couse not by figting with openent.
RE:my view
by Naresh on Jul 20, 2006 07:43 PM Permalink
the best way to control anger is Do meditation with the guidence of TRUE GURU(He will give you a guru mantra).I'm doing this from last 2 years and got the success.
RE:my view
by Ranjita on Jul 17, 2006 03:46 PM Permalink
Well I am agree with you. We should always show our feelings at the right moment otherwise will have to feel sorry that why we could not answered rpoerly and they will think us weak.
