Actually i think i was the first one to read this message when it was posted on Rediff. There was no one at that time discussing about this. I just wanted to see how many people really take this real article seriously...And when i came back a couple of hours later i was surprised and happy to see that so many people are very worried after seeing this...It still shows that humanity is not dead. Well i live abroad now. And i hope to adopt one of those less fortunate mothers when i visit india during holidays by paying the Rs2400. I dont feel like commenting anything about those people who abandoned their mothers. I just can say that they are heartless people. God will punish them one day..Lets pray god to give these mothers some comfort towards their emotions as if you are hurt physically you heal it very quickly but people who are hurt emotionally and mentally cant be cured that quickly..All i can do is to Adopt a mother. If God one day gives me the financial strength i would surely do more to these kind of people. After all we are not going to take back anything with us when we end this life. Men are really crazy going behind money and ready to do any sin...I really got upset and was about to cry seeing this article.
RE:OLD Abandoned mothers
by Abhishek on Mar 09, 2007 12:01 AM Permalink
good, honest thoughts. maybe if we all combine our efforts we can do something creative and create a lot more Vishranthi's.
Until now I imagined that the hardest emotional pain one could ever have would be the loss of one's own child. But being abandoned by one's own living child is surely the worst... It is heartbreaking to read this article, and I pray for all these & other abandoned parents.
I felt like crying after reading this. My heart goes out for these women. The stories inspire me more to take better care of my parents. Maybe the people who desolated the parents in such a way go through the same pain. Self realization is the best realization.
There is a proverb which says that most of the time, it is a woman which causes more pain to another woman. Saas-Bahu issue has always been a great problem in india. Men wake up and take care of ur families. u have a very delicate activity of making both mother and wife love each other more. Don't neglect any of them. If not one may dominate other and finally no one realises but ur life is ruined.
Before blaming the BAHU let us blame the legal system for creating such a BAHU. These laws tend to westernize india. In western countries parents dont care for children and children dont care for parents. We are heading towards that. I have seen the kind of lonely lives the westerners lead. I prefer our tradition and culture which is having more harmony. Modern BAHU does not like the husband's mother and sister to stay in the same household.
Now let me come to your issue of why not blame the son... Son wants his mom and sister to live happily in the house. But everyday his wife throws tantrums on his mother and sister. Unable to bear this anymore his mother and sister feel they get peace of mind outside that house and move out. This is what is happening in most of our houses. SHAME ON WOMENS ORGANIZATIONS FOR CREATING LAWS WHICH FAVOR A DAUGHTER IN LAW AND HARASS MORE WOMEN IN THE HOUSE. I WANT ALL THE MOTHERS AND SISTERS OF HUSBANDS TO BOYCOT THE WOMENS DAY.
RE:Shame to legal system.
by Krishna on Mar 08, 2007 07:41 PM Permalink
I agree. It is a waste of time celebrating these stupid days and calling themselves "Stree shakti" and such nonsense. The most important thing is being human. First be a good human and try to do good to others irrespective of the genders. There is no point in women saying that "Women are Great". remember, if u say that man can as well say that "Man is Great". I hope these so-called feminists, women activists(Good-for-nothing) realise this and instead of raising voices on unneccessary issues, if they are really worried about humanity, they should do some real social service.
"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, "my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (Quran 17: 23,24)
All religions and all societies have given parents an honorable status. From a purely material viewpoint, we find ourselves indebted to our parents, particularly our mother. She not only nourished us in her womb, but went through pain and suffering. She loved us even before we were born. She toiled when we were totally helpless infants. She spent sleepless nights caring for us. Our parents as a team provided for all our needs: physical, educational, psychological, and in many instances, religious, moral, and spiritual. Our indebtedness to our parents is so immense that it is not possible to repay it fully. In lieu of this, it becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. The position of parents, and the mutual obligations and responsibilities, have been addressed in Islam in great detail.
The Qur'anic commandments, as well as the sayings of Prophet Muhammad guide us in this matter. The parent-child code of behavior in Islam is unique, since rules were laid down by divine command.
References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur'an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad on this subject. I will first quote some of the Qur'anic verses here:
"And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final goal." (Chapter31: verse14)
According to the above verse, gratitude to God and to parents go hand in hand. Gratitude to God is incomplete without showing gratitude to one's parents. Since being grateful to God is a form of ibadah (worship) which earns heavenly rewards, it can therefore be said that being grateful to one's parents also earns heavenly rewards.
"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, "my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (17: 23,24)
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth." (46:15)
Thus, God has enjoined on us to show kindness, respect, and humility to our parents. We are commanded to do this, even though they may have injured us. The only exception to the above command is made in the following verse:
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; but if they strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not." (29:8)
Some of the traditions of Prophet Muhammad, and of the learned members of his family, about our responsibilities toward our parents are quoted here:
"Paradise lies under the feet of the mother."
"God's pleasure is in the pleasure of the father, and God's displeasure is in the displeasure of the father."
"He who wishes to enter Paradise through its best door must please his parents."
"It is a pity that some people may not attain Paradise, on account of not serving their old parents."
"If a person looks with love at his parents, God writes in his favor the reward equal to the performance of one Hajj."
[Someone asked, "will this promise be good if one looks at his parents one hundred times a day?" The Holy Prophet (pbuh) replied, "even if one does so a hundred thousand times a day, God gives the reward accordingly."]
"A man or woman is bound to be good to his or her parents, even though they may have injured him or her."
Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq (A.S.), the great-great-grandson of the Prophet Muhammad is reported to have quoted Imam 'Ali (A.S.) that, "disobedience to parents is a major sin." He also stated that, "if a person looks at the face of his or her parents with wrathful eyes, despite the fact that injustice was done to him or her by the parents, his or her salah (prayer) will not be accepted by God."
According to one of the Hadith-e-Qudsi, the following is reported about the status of parents:
"God has commanded that if anybody prays equal to the invocations performed by the prophets, such prayers will do no good if that person has been cursed by his or her parents."
It has also been related that the very first words which have been written on the Lauh-e-Mahfuz (The Heavenly Preserved Tablet) are:
"I am God, and there is no deity except Me. I am pleased with those with whom their parents are pleased, and I am displeased with those with whom their parents are displeased."
Prophet Muhammad is reported to have said: "On the Day of Judgment, my person will not be seen by those who drank liquor, those who on hearing my name did not invoke the blessings of God on me, or those who were cursed and disowned by their parents."
'Ali ibn al-Husain (A.S.) is reported to have said: "The right of your mother on you is that you should know that nobody could endure the trouble and the conditions under which she protected you and nourished you with the juice of her life, and tried with her heart and soul to satisfy all your needs in relation to hunger, thirst, dress, etc. She passed sleepless nights, suffering anxieties. She provided you with shelter against heat and cold, and protected you from ailments. It is not possible for you to compensate her, or thank her enough for all the services, except that God may give you guidance for that. The right of your father on you is that you should know that it is he who brought you into existence, and you are a branch of the tree of his life."
According to a reliable tradition, it is related that a man came to Prophet Muhammad and asked him to whom he should render kindness. The prophet told him to be kind to his mother. Three times he put the same question to the prophet, and three times he got the same answer. When he asked the question the fourth time, he was told to be kind to his father, indicating that the mother's right took precedence over that of the father!!!
Parents' duties: Islam has assigned certain duties to parents that they must fulfill. If they fail in those, they will be questioned about it. Besides providing the basic necessities of life, Islam requires that the parents teach their children about the Oneness of God, the Quranic commandments, values, the Prophets and their teachings, and the moral code of Islam as according to the Quran and the Sunnah (teachings) of Prophet Muhammad.
Let us pray to God that He guide us to be respectful, kind, and obedient to our parents, and that we continue to show them humility regardless of the power, position, wealth, and influence we may possess. Let us also pray that we be patient, kind, thoughtful, and friendly with our children, as we guide them through their lives, and that we discharge our responsibilities towards them as required by our religion, so that God may be pleased with us, and may He Bless and reward us, both in this world and in the Hereafter; Ameen.
RE:The Status of Parents
by HAJIRA NAZNEEN on Mar 08, 2007 10:32 PM Permalink
y dont u read ur religious books and gain some knowledge .did u ever bother what is mentioned in it. read it and u 2 can quote...
RE:RE:The Status of Parents
by ashok sharma on Mar 09, 2007 02:18 PM Permalink
Good points made by you. I know about Shravan kumar who is know for exemplary love for his parents. Hinduism also talk about the love and respect one should have for their parents. I am sure all the religions talk about the same love and affection.
The main point is, people dont follow that has been taught by their religious book. Instead they follow the meanness and selfishness and once their mind is bankrupted they send their parents to olg age homes.
with all due respect I know few Muslims who have abandoned their parents. This issues is universal and only a good up bringing can overcome such social evils.
"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, "my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (Quran 17: 23,24)
All religions and all societies have given parents an honorable status. From a purely material viewpoint, we find ourselves indebted to our parents, particularly our mother. She not only nourished us in her womb, but went through pain and suffering. She loved us even before we were born. She toiled when we were totally helpless infants. She spent sleepless nights caring for us. Our parents as a team provided for all our needs: physical, educational, psychological, and in many instances, religious, moral, and spiritual. Our indebtedness to our parents is so immense that it is not possible to repay it fully. In lieu of this, it becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. The position of parents, and the mutual obligations and responsibilities, have been addressed in Islam in great detail.
The Qur'anic commandments, as well as the sayings of Prophet Muhammad guide us in this matter. The parent-child code of behavior in Islam is unique, since rules were laid down by divine command.
References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur'an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad on this subject. I will first quote some of the Qur'anic verses here:
"And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final goal." (Chapter31: verse14)
According to the above verse, gratitude to God and to parents go hand in hand. Gratitude to God is incomplete without showing gratitude to one's parents. Since being grateful to God is a form of ibadah (worship) which earns heavenly rewards, it can therefore be said that being grateful to one's parents also earns heavenly rewards.
"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, "my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (17: 23,24)
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth." (46:15)
Thus, God has enjoined on us to show kindness, respect, and humility to our parents. We are commanded to do this, even though they may have injured us. The only exception to the above command is made in the following verse:
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; but if they strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not." (29:8)
Some of the traditions of Prophet Muhammad, and of the learned members of his family, about our responsibilities toward our parents are quoted here:
"Paradise lies under the feet of the mother."
"God's pleasure is in the pleasure of the father, and God's displeasure is in the displeasure of the father."
"He who wishes to enter Paradise through its best door must please his parents."
"It is a pity that some people may not attain Paradise, on account of not serving their old parents."
"If a person looks with love at his parents, God writes in his favor the reward equal to the performance of one Hajj."
[Someone asked, "will this promise be good if one looks at his parents one hundred times a day?" The Holy Prophet (pbuh) replied, "even if one does so a hundred thousand times a day, God gives the reward accordingly."]
"A man or woman is bound to be good to his or her parents, even though they may have injured him or her."
Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq (A.S.), the great-great-grandson of the Prophet Muhammad is reported to have quoted Imam 'Ali (A.S.) that, "disobedience to parents is a major sin." He also stated that, "if a person looks at the face of his or her parents with wrathful eyes, despite the fact that injustice was done to him or her by the parents, his or her salah (prayer) will not be accepted by God."
According to one of the Hadith-e-Qudsi, the following is reported about the status of parents:
"God has commanded that if anybody prays equal to the invocations performed by the prophets, such prayers will do no good if that person has been cursed by his or her parents."
It has also been related that the very first words which have been written on the Lauh-e-Mahfuz (The Heavenly Preserved Tablet) are:
"I am God, and there is no deity except Me. I am pleased with those with whom their parents are pleased, and I am displeased with those with whom their parents are displeased."
Prophet Muhammad is reported to have said: "On the Day of Judgment, my person will not be seen by those who drank liquor, those who on hearing my name did not invoke the blessings of God on me, or those who were cursed and disowned by their parents."
'Ali ibn al-Husain (A.S.) is reported to have said: "The right of your mother on you is that you should know that nobody could endure the trouble and the conditions under which she protected you and nourished you with the juice of her life, and tried with her heart and soul to satisfy all your needs in relation to hunger, thirst, dress, etc. She passed sleepless nights, suffering anxieties. She provided you with shelter against heat and cold, and protected you from ailments. It is not possible for you to compensate her, or thank her enough for all the services, except that God may give you guidance for that. The right of your father on you is that you should know that it is he who brought you into existence, and you are a branch of the tree of his life."
According to a reliable tradition, it is related that a man came to Prophet Muhammad and asked him to whom he should render kindness. The prophet told him to be kind to his mother. Three times he put the same question to the prophet, and three times he got the same answer. When he asked the question the fourth time, he was told to be kind to his father, indicating that the mother's right took precedence over that of the father!!!
Parents' duties: Islam has assigned certain duties to parents that they must fulfill. If they fail in those, they will be questioned about it. Besides providing the basic necessities of life, Islam requires that the parents teach their children about the Oneness of God, the Quranic commandments, values, the Prophets and their teachings, and the moral code of Islam as according to the Quran and the Sunnah (teachings) of Prophet Muhammad.
Let us pray to God that He guide us to be respectful, kind, and obedient to our parents, and that we continue to show them humility regardless of the power, position, wealth, and influence we may possess. Let us also pray that we be patient, kind, thoughtful, and friendly with our children, as we guide them through their lives, and that we discharge our responsibilities towards them as required by our religion, so that God may be pleased with us, and may He Bless and reward us, both in this world and in the Hereafter; Ameen.
I just wish that those children who push their parents to these old age home, their soul should not rest in peace ....they should suffer till their last breath....AMEN.
RE:RE:Maa thuje salaam!!!!!!
by rathakrishnan vivekananth on Mar 08, 2007 09:31 PM Permalink
be thankfull to them atleast they had the heart to leave there parents alone without keeping them with them and hurting them every time
parents are one who cannot be anyone runing on the side for the success of ur ride burning themselves in the sunshine so that our future may brightly shine
this is the small understanding i have about my parents ,coz i know how hard it is to take care of ur young ones and love them and leave the world for them when u have the world at ur door waiting for u ,still they do this for us to prosper AND people consider them as a burden is a shame all together such idiots must be put behind the bars, its shame to read this article and i have no words to explain my feelings i really feel sorry for the one who have left their parents
I do totally agree with you. As Newton's 3rd law says " for every action there is equal and opposite reaction" God will react to this actions of the children abondoning their parents in a proper way. "Uski (god's)lathi dikhayi nahi deta par jab bolta hai tab sabko Maa hi yaad aati hai". How can those idiot children forget the first word spelled from their dirty mouth was "Maa". Unsay kehdo jindagi mein kabhi dard huey aagey se toh Maa ko yaad na karna kyon aisi aulad ko koi hakk nahi Maa shabd ke istmal karne ....?
