I'm not sure if this is a good idea especially if you've known that person for a very long time. When you know someone so well, you tend to look at them as a sibling - someone with whom you grew up. In such a case, it'd be weird to even have thoughts of romance. Also, the element of surprise and excitement might not be there in case your spouse is your long-time best buddy.
I knew my husband for atleast 10 yrs before marriage. We were really good friends, he was sharing his crushes and I was mine. Honestly- not to sound filmy, we did not realise we were in love and eventually we got married. Before marriage I knew his family depended on him financially and his nat5ure. But I don't know how it happened that I got possive of my husband and things turned different. There was a kind of tension around this. Before marriage I used to tell to save andstuff nd after marriage when i said the same thing he felt I was trying to create distance between his family and him.
Things were bad from his end too. Suddenly he hated my lifestyle and my friends. He knew all of them before and we all did go out and suddenly he wanted us to hangout more with his friends.
I know these might sound silly, all I am saying is be clear. when you are married it doe snot matter if he is your best friend or not. He is your husband and there are few demands and expecations from both ends. You might agree and emphazise as a friend but not as a wife and visa versa.
Good luck to all of you.
I am happyly marriaed to "my friend" and we have 2 children and I coulc not ask for more. but I did loose my best friend but gained a good husband
RE:It has pro's and con's
by navin kumar on Apr 16, 2008 03:09 PM Permalink
me must be alo having his own story to tell against u abt how u played spoilsport in his lifestyle!
RE:It has pro's and con's
by krishna tripathi on Apr 16, 2008 03:38 PM Permalink
correct! now she is happy. that means her husband has definately compromised...may be they are now not living with the husband's family. so the wife is satisfied...
well freinds there are time when u need a shoulder t sob or ear to whisper that friend is then remembered and u realise his/her importance and regret ur decision . I will say never mix things a friend can be friend only untill one has a different feeling from start and love is love how hard you try it can give you the taste of that friend
it is a matter of understanding, if you can understand the feelings and likes dislikes it is much better to marry her, otherwise you will get by you destiny
harsh but true (at least so far as i know). if it has to work it'll work, if not, nobody can save it no matter how hard u try. actually if u "try" to save a marriage, u increase it's chance of being failed. a complete stranger can be a good partner and a very good friend can be a bad partner...it's it's just a matter of, u can say, chance (i dont like the word "destiny"). u dont get a partner with a guarantee card, u see...
RE:marriage is a gamble...
by ruchi kunwar on Apr 21, 2008 07:08 PM Permalink | Hide message
dnt understand what are you trying to say?You are confused.
I believe that you if u marry your true friend, and are able to keep your marriage going, then you actually were true friends. I did marry friend who was close with me for an year and a half. But after marriage lots of things came up.We struggled with it a lot. But we never ever thought of calling it quit. After all those turmoils, we got to understand each other better. It made us more closer. I and my wife are still learning about each other. But i believe love has taken the frontseat and friendship is the fuel which is making us go.
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by krishna tripathi on Apr 16, 2008 01:54 PM Permalink
there are at least 100 gramatical mistakes in his comment...i am not going to pin point them. u call are educated enough to locate them...
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by sports guy on Apr 16, 2008 03:34 PM Permalink
no yaar this not correct place to point out....ok let him greet .....he is in enjoying mood......ok
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by krishna tripathi on Apr 16, 2008 03:41 PM Permalink
i hate half english sentences. either speak correct english or speak correct hindi. if you can't write correct english, leave this place.
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by M Kisan on Apr 17, 2008 08:32 AM Permalink
using a reasonably correct language is also significant, so that we all can correctly understand your view point the way you are thinking and wish to present it. i.e. what we read remains the same as what you are thinking.
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by clavin lobo on Apr 19, 2008 12:55 PM Permalink
Krishna whenever u start a sentence it starts with a capital letter and after any fullstop it again starts with a capital letter so......did u get what i mean?
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by Rajkumar Leishemba on Apr 16, 2008 02:03 PM Permalink
krishna am sure u r that type who'll never make anyone happy. too much nitpicking and forget the issue ahead of u.
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by kapil kama on Apr 16, 2008 02:02 PM Permalink
there are 5 grammatical/spelling mistakes in the single sentence that you wrote above. Now, just shutup and leave. You have chosen wrong context to show your English language proficiency..
RE:RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by krishna tripathi on Apr 16, 2008 03:42 PM Permalink
don't go on the word "call". it is actually a typing mistake. but you cannot find a gramatical mistake in any of my sentences.
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by blesson mathew on Apr 16, 2008 02:09 PM Permalink
looks like dis guy named krishna is out there just for the sake of spotting out "mistakes"- so called ...in others' comments.....therez no way u can make a POINT to such creatures on precious and sensitive matters like love & relationships.....!!!!
RE:RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by ajo philip on Apr 16, 2008 01:25 PM Permalink
hello krisha-harry's is honest and his language is ok.do u think ur language is superior to him? lol... even god cant save u :)
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by sri ph on Apr 16, 2008 01:47 PM Permalink
sahi bola... In harry's context here, language has no significance. It should be good that people can understand the matter. That should be sufficient.
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by Himanshu Sharma on Apr 16, 2008 02:01 PM Permalink
seems krishna is the incarnation of Shakespeare... thats y he finds harry's english horrible as he is used to 'thou','thine','thy' and things like that..lol kya re krishna...tujhe khudki marwane mein achcha lagta hai kya? lol
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by steven lewis on Apr 16, 2008 01:42 PM Permalink
hey Krishna, whats with the english thingii??? u an english teacher or something??? man!! craazzzy people ...
RE:Marrying a friend is a true test of love and friendship
by umesh on Apr 16, 2008 03:54 PM Permalink
lets u write in OWN language(english)lets see wat other will tell,,
