It's takes a lot of Strength and Character to stick to What is RIGHT than giving in to what's considered Cool.
Norms that the society has have been put in place over the years, are a result of thousands of years of civilisation, it took probably for a man to be know as civilised and now what we are attempting to do is undo all the civilisation in the name of Modernism.
Be it a Guy or A girl - Certain norms should be followed, certain boundries must be adhered.
Being a catholic ,I can comment from that background. Sex is a holy gift which was given by God and we should not misuse that. Animals do not have sense and they can use that the way they want.But human beings are not supposed to! If we also do the same like the animals do, then we do not have a difference between them. And also for a healthy, honesty married life we have to preserve this holy gift for our partner.
Well done, Ms Sarah! I live alone on a foreign assignment leaving my dear wife and children back in India. In Africa, U can really get sex for a dime. Not me. Never. I'm NOT law abiding just 'coz of HIV, but I feel and BELIEVE true sex can exist only within the confines of marriage. It's the partnership / companionship and TRUST of each other that can make having sex fun and not one-night-stands and orgies.A happy smile, a gentle embrace after a hard day at the job, from your partner (male/female)can make U have a fresh look at life.Oh Boy! when these people will learn, before it's too late. Can anybody drive on the pavement just 'coz he/she is "equipped" with a vehicle? You are equipped so you can enjoy it the right way, feel fulfilled and cherished, mentally freshened and re-charged. Comparing with animals itself is a crime...Shame on your flamboyant friend. If God intented it that way, then we human being would also hv "seasons"!!! I agree with you 100% and may you come around again to tell us your success story and if U dont mind, drop me a line at this id..barnabas_s@rediffmail.com..With all best wishes
Hi, I have been through a very similar experience as you had on your 30th birthday! This is what went on my mind: a) The urge to have sex. b) The inner restrain, which is also natural. c) Similar argument: Animals have sex...why not we? The issue is that for humans, sex involves a very special part of our existence, other than our bodies- i.e our psyche. Our minds are far more complex than thos e of lower animals, hence we function is a very different ways than them. As much as our bodies come in contact, so much or even more do our minds come into intimate contact. The human mind is a very complex "organ" and can get traumatized. This emotional trauma, results because of two very strong opposing forces: i) the instincts, ii) The conscience. The conscience evolves over several generations in human, and is deeply influenced by our familial, societial culture. The force of the conscience is as power and many times more powerful than the power of the instintual urges. So if we often go against the dictates of this consience (which is missing in lower animals) we tend to harm ourselves emotionally and in turn physically too. Hence, from these facts, human sexual behaviour is different.
Ms Sarah, you are absolutely write. Animals ARE after all just animals. Any comparison with them seeks to undermine the human existence, which is ridiculous to say the least. Lust weakens a person. Sex outside marriage, sex as a single and sex with spouse devoid of love are all nothing but cheap lust. The difference between a man and animal lies in the ability to have control over one's carnal desires or more importantly, ability to control one's mind. All great person in all the religions have stressed on controlling one's desires and lustful thoughts in order to gain internal and external strength. Control doesnt only mean simply refraining from performing a lustful physical acitivity but refraining from having lustful thoughts as well. Purer the person in mind, stronger and more confident she or he feels. Yes, its difficult to do so. But only the brave and them who have guts achieve it. Those who are weak, like your friend, succumb to lust and suffer.
I comes from medical background and studied human biology from reproductive biology to psychology.Right now,I have been living in a western country for almost last 2 years.Well, I agree with your friend that we are animal but still we are not just animal but we are social animal (and not to forget animal with most advanced brain!).I completely agree with you that being a human sex is not just a physical act like other animals.For us,its more emotional and spiritual act which distiguish us from other animals.In western world the society is more open towards sex but how happy they are with it, only they can tell you!!!!!
excellent opinion, we decide our destiny, let us be comfortable throughout our life without going into troubles which may pop up with our deeds which are impulsive in nature,one amongst is losing our fidelity
Well sex before marriage is something that has been hanging fire among youth ever since, just that discussing it is more open now.
Definately I agree to the fact that we are nonetheless animals who have sexual cravings like any raw animal. Before or after marriage question is decided on a simple fact; your comfort level in being exposed to 'N' number of people. And by exposed I do not only mean physically, but beyond that. So its all depending on person to person.
Thats how i take it. For the record... I stand for sex after marriage
