Thinking rationally really helps specially when the relationalship your are looking needs to be ever lasting and never ending. I myself had several such tiny miny relationships which started with an understanding that make it and later break it. Such relation should be like house of sand that we make on the beach and we walk over it when we leave from there. The important thing to understand hereis that make sure there is no dependency created in such relations and u need only fun. Do not look for emotional support. If either partner gets dependent on other, its next to impossible to end the relation with a smiley face. Risk is huge. Sex really makes you feel used. It makes hard to see that your partner is having similar fun with someone else.
Ofcourse it is important to her and to many others like me. She is not being judgmental...she is just expressing her thoughts about the matter and what she believes in. Its a matter of principles...if you think that this is such a waste of time...why even reply to the message??
i think u r absolutely correct ,its sex which brings two human beings closer and get to know each other more closely.
i think sex word itself is sumthing makes u feel secure.i dont mean to say that we should have sex regularly or very frequently but it makes a marriage more succesful.
generally i have seen that divorce is because some people doent want to have sex .....now what can u say ....
d article says dt sex is an intimate act n nt jus a biological thing...i agree...bt where does marriage come in...cant u b very close n intimate to someone bt nt married...like lovers r before marriage...or say married ppl havin affairs...
now lets say u luv someone...or ur into a live in relation...u marry him/her...wt is d difference btw now n before d marriage...u were already close to d person...so therefore can one say dt den for dese ppl a marriage is a license to hav sex legally...i mean evrythin else remains d same...so gt married to enjoy sex??
I am against premarital,casual sex- A real and enduring sexual fulfillment can take place only within the boundaries of a faithful marriage where the husband and wife trust and love each other 100%. We are not animals to indulge in it whenever we feel the urge-God's given us brains and a free will to choose the right path and not to indulge in reckless behavior. The world is reaping the consequences of casual sex-AID's,broken homes and marriages,a whole range of sex-related diseases etc. are but a few of the negatives. Let us be "Men and Women" of integrity and virtue which will make a positive difference.
RE:PREMARITAL AND CASUAL SEX
by Shekhar on Aug 02, 2006 02:25 PM Permalink
Hi !!
Being a guy I would definely like to answer your question. I was totally agree with you, in fact my mind was full of sex although I used to believe that it should be happen only with one whom you love you care coz Girl is not only a instrument. I used to think that untill unless you are married commited to one person you are free to do all this. I tried to go for sex many times but I could not . Definitely it was my inner thoughts only. One was pushing ahead and another was taking it back. Then I thought to give it a final answer. What is good and what is bad. Another "I" rose inside me and told that girl is respectable before love.What if others also do it. Can't you see the example of America there mostly person are converting into gay. We must understand that both have been made copmletely different and must act accordingly , however I am never against of equlity . But I am definitely against of sex or any kind of minor sexual activities. Afterall if we try to see everything even sex we do itfor pleasure but if you dont go in right direction that pleasure you won't be able to have with lots of woman which you can have with single.
Depends on how you define single. Having a one night stand with a complete stranger or maintaining your virginity till your marriage are two extremes. There has to be a middle path. In my opinion, sex is just one way of expressing your love and if you love someone it is fine. I think its better to have sex with someone whom you share an emotional bond whether married or not than have it with a complete stranger just because you married him/her a couple of days ago!! you said you need emotional attachment, i think in arranged marriages, people have sex much before they get emotionally attached which more or less makes it similar to a one night stand! so relax girl try finding your man first and take things from there...rather than listening to what indian society has to say..thats the only way all of us will have a healthy approach on the subject...
This is news, though you can tell from many a reaction primates do exist in our 'Land that time Forgot', great to hear atleast the women are moving ahead. As for the ones who are crying 'holier than thou' are the ones who have never had a decent lay for once in their lives. They are the same ones who contribute to the spewing population rise of monkeys that inhabit our land. As for Ram and Tathagat, they were a product of sex and they did have their fair share before they decided to deny everyone else of it along with the other set of Gods, all of them including them Prophets and Christ, et al who somehow descended into the land of India and whispered into people here that they upheld all great knowledge culture and tradition therefore thou shalt not have sex!... what shit!. Its sex, there is NOTHING to it and these religious cultural morality brigades should get a life, infact it is they should refrain from having sex, we dont want more of them in our land.
Hi, I completely share your views. I have a hypothesis.I am 37, Engineer, MBA from AUstrali & live in TOronto. My view is, yes, Humans are animals and sex is a basic instinct. But we had intelligence too. Thats why, we have signals on the roads for example. People dont like them, but they are necessary for a good functioning of the society. We have income taxes.... Again, the basic instinct is to, no pay taxes, but they are necessary for a intelligent society to run. So, is sex.... its a basic animal instinct in us. But if its not reined in, a social co habition of humans in a society is not possible. There will be chaos... So, like incomes taxes, street traffic signals, laws, education insitituions...... Marraige is also a human made insitutuion, which definately goes against the animal basic instinct, but is NECESSARY for a social existance and functioning of the society. I live in the west, and the sexual freedom, I feel, is the basic reason for almost 50% divorce rate here. I am not trying to be judgemental, in that, if one is ok with a society with 50% divorce rate, then sexual freedom is ok.. otherwise, not outside marriage.
Hi read yor article .. and to be honest i am impressed .. this kind of mental frame seems to be rare these days ... i am really moved by what you have written .. i dont know if you are a male or female ..but appreciate your views ...
- I think article has right point, sex should be discouraged before marriage but remember shouldn't be banned!!
- banned things are always challenged by young generation, so I think it is important to make people understand why it premaritial should be discouraged!
- Those who tells us that, we are given specific type of body to have more sex should also know that we also have a great brain, which can't be comparied to any other animal in this world!! and if you use your brain a little bit you would understand that we are social animal and we need a proper society to live in.
- If we will create a society which is greedy for sex, such society will definetly will rander our emotional and maritial relationship insingnificant and ultimatly lead towards a collapse of our social system. So use your great brain as humann, understand the importance of marriage system to keep our society.
- Also (if you can) try to understand the concept of "universal sex", which is defined as an unification of your limited being (your soul) with the ultimate infinite being (you can call it god), that will make all this physical sexual phenomena useless!!
