For animals food and sex ar the only two things they live for . we have come far away from the anioimals . Sex is meant for ptocreation.nature has provided sex for tha purpose oly.since all animals while reaching the adolescent age get the procreative organs developed and they hav a feeling hat was unknown and not felt up to that stage of life is very much attracted by the intensity of the feelings . even animals can for get it in the absece of the opposit sex atttracting them.ut humans with a stronger and eveloped memory does not easily for get any new experience b ut develops on it with imagination. Thei memeory is is a boon and a bane at the same time . just like aknife . it is both ?good and bad too. The animals know ahtr they need and how much they need anythig , but does not know what he needs and how much he needs. It is only because of this religions advise moderatuion in any thig and control of sense for the healthier and peaceful life . but we yeild to temptation and take a fancy to it . marriage is held to abe a scared union and and sex is considerd to be a sacrd act of procreaion . that is why , the elders prescribbed some auspicious occasions for sex ual union
Yes, Sex is more than physical & its more on mental too. Your article was excellent & conveys the right message. If US has highest divorce, one of the reason being pre marital sex & faithless towards marriages,
Asian culture is far better & especially India is even far better than rest of the Asia.
I completely go with the author. What is in your mind is running with 90% of the youth, but being acquainted with drugs and binging, they change their decision at the eleventh hour and give up, ending up in a critical relationship hurting themselves both physially and mentally, which remains and carries throughout their rest of life.
There lies the difference between beasts and human, I support you fully. But don't get disappointed if your would be spouse is not a virgin as you would certainly like him/her to be. And this virtue of being in this culture rather than the all-consuming western stuff is this kind of thoughts. I hope more people will support us. Love and Lust are very different.
Here's Shakespeare's Sonnet no: 129
The expense of spirit in a waste of shame
Is lust in action; and till action, lust
Is perjured, murderous, bloody, full of blame,
Savage, extreme, rude, cruel, not to trust,
Enjoy'd no sooner but despised straight,
Past reason hunted, and no sooner had
Past reason hated, as a swallow'd bait
On purpose laid to make the taker mad;
Mad in pursuit and in possession so;
Had, having, and in quest to have, extreme;
A bliss in proof, and proved, a very woe;
Before, a joy proposed; behind, a dream.
All this the world well knows; yet none knows well
I 100% agree with you. For me Sex before marriage was /is No NO....... Now as I am married and have commited relationship I use to wonder how difficult it would be for prositutes to do SEX with so many unknown people. For me SEX goes with more of emotional need of love and if u r not attached to someone emotionally how can u sleep.......... anyways my take on this same as u bit conservative ,old fashioned and i am really scared for my children in future..... I know I dont ahve control over future still i am bit restless about whole changing concept of SEX.... I am 33 year old
The very first question rose in my mind, by reading your artical, whether your denial of sex attributes to no desire for it or just over-ruling it for some purpose. If the answer is first one then you are abnormal and need medical help. Lack of basic desire is not natural. Like thirst and hunger sex too is natural, with the difference that it is not so urgent and one can bear and manage sex-starvation for prolonged period or even lifetime. But we shall not confuse lack of desire with starvation and willful administration.
Even in case of willful administration, the sexual energy residues some stress and long starvation disturbes mind control to some extent. It is part of your skill how you cop with it.
Because basic sex instict is product of body harmones and not just culture of human mind, it is an universal natural process for all creatures. In case of animal kingdom the breeding motivation is the prime priority, besides pleasure of act. However in case of mankind, mating act is not so strongly attributed to just creating infants, but pleasure that dominates and hence there are choices and rejections. Neverthless biological factor remains active and lust declines over age.
pawar, u hit the nail on the head.
by anto on Aug 03, 2006 11:49 AM Permalink
hi pawar
as a (happily??) married man of 39 years with 2 kids , i 100% believe in what pawar says.
sex is exactly like hunger and sleep .... only difference we can keep it in abeyance for some time.
many people mistakenly think only men have that shagging lust for women, but women can turn out to be greater nmymphomaniacs than men. only that women dont expose thier emotions externally, while men make it so obvious by drooling in public.
i need sex at least 3 times a week , but my wife is okay 3 times a month....... too bad, right??
but the thought of adultery has only now started crossing my mind because of this mis-match ........ but i doubt i would do it unless an APSARA enticed me.
all that talk of controlling sex in the "mind" is simply mumbo-jumbo.
I fully endorse what has been written.It is indeed refreshing to read a view on sex such as this.I also sincerely hope there are more people who share these views.
Good opinions and quite truthful. But naive. Tell me something, how can you opine on sex when you have never indulged in it. How do you know it touches the soul and etc. etc. ? It maybe a farce for all you know. Looks like you are trying to justify your behaviour because of your so and so beliefs, whereas it might just be that you cannot indulge in it before marriage. Period. Moral arguments like yours are great for satisfying the so-called soul and blameshifting it on something else.
Very impressive write-up!Very well articulated without sounding sanctimonious or esoteric. And yes, I do concur with the views expressed by her,albeit I concede its a personal choice that one is free to exercise.
