Anger is intensified emotion which works as negative force in a person.The best way to combat this is to divert your mind and deep breath.Once you relax the anger is dissolved!!
RE:Anger!!!
by halayudha on Jul 19, 2006 04:38 AM Permalink
In your 45 years have not tried to control ur anger?You believe in ladership by example. what if your juniors take ur example and blast off their juniors at the slightest provocation ( a valid reason for you may not be so to the other guy). Can u imagine what would happen to ur team's morale? what ur juniors would think behind your back? So befor you blast off get into their shoes, think and then blast them in private. Love is the best motivator. Your juniors must love u, rspect you and that positive fear of losing your love and respect towards them makes them work better. dont waste ur anger anymore. it has to be reserved for other thins. read Ramayana.
RE:Anger!!!
by Tanmay on Jul 19, 2006 12:26 AM Permalink
Diverting the mind is perhaps d best option, but most people who get angry quickly act what their heart says.
i am 45yrs of age. i am prone to the anger problem. i lead a team of engineers in my activity. i believe in leadership by example. hence i take lots of initiative and work very hard. here i face the problem, when somebody tries to act or talk smart, i cant tolerate and blast off. But believe me, people who get anger frequently, with valid reason ofcourse, are dependable, committed and good at heart and above all compassionate. so i would like everyone to view this PROBLEM in a positive spirit.
Dear Sir/madam, I am suffering with the problem called anger and I would like to get rid of it but unable to do it I am writing to you. When I get anger if Iam at home Iwill shout at my people or I will backanswer them. If I am outside I will feel very bad for myself and if the person caused me anger is a known person I criticise him/her in front of another known person. I have tried controlling some of the things when time demands it but I am not able to control my anger since it is very difficult to control. Please help me how to control my anger since it is a barrier in my future life. Thankyou,
im very short-tempered.i lose my temper at the slightest provocation and i cool down equally fast. at times i make promises to myself that i will try to control my temper but every time i fail in that attempt.i really dont know why im like that,my family members r a pole apart.i feel sorry for myself at times, sometimes i get angry at myself.im so short-tempered.i wish i were different.i relly wish i were more cool and calm.its a pity!
whenever one is angry , the anger should come off slightly. otherwise similar to a pressure cooker , anger can keep on accumulating and burst the entire cooker. instead just like the valve which lets out steam , anger should also be let out but only in harmless amounts.
"No matter what Marco Materazzi said to Zidane, and however much it might have hurt him, Zidane needed to rise above everything in that critical moment.
Sad, sad ending to a great career, and a disappointing letdown from a leader who was all set to create a legend that would travel from generation to generation.
This story, too, will travel.
It will travel as a cautionary tale of how you cannot afford to be human, once the stage is set."
It is easy to get angry by the eprovocation of others. but if we think for a moment , it is only the person who provokes get miserable, if we keep our cool. Moreover , when we become angry we hurt the other person which will have a long term impact on the relations...so better to control our reactions as our emotions (not the intellect) speaks whenever we are angry. Who else other than our Great Mahatma taught us the efficacy of patience and calmness?! It always wins at the end...! So be cheerful, let the other person get angry and spoil his mood, not your's! After all nobody is going to chop off your head!!
It's Ashok K. Gupta from Bhadohi aging about 25 years. I am an employee in a Ministry funded Institute and having lots of responsibilties. Till my teenage (boley toh) 21 I enjoyed all the responsibilities happily, and it was tough for others to provoke me. Now when I am crossing 25 I feel like getting everytime on lil craps. Even a little denial plays a vital role rising my Anger on top. I have got some betrayals and previously i was living in more dreams, but after they broke and finally got myself depressed. Moreover I could not digest the negligence of lovemate. Being the senior person in the family excluding my parents I have to play a big role for my family, but I fould it very difficult when my own brothers do not act according to me. I found them irritating me always. Though after getting angry with them, I calm down easily shortly. But the main problem is when i get irritated, things seem to be devastated.
