in the entire discussion i feel that the whole matter is becoming too selfish. indian society is not based on selfish nature. it means we always think about our beloved persons. wether they are our parents, relatives or any dependants. thats where the problem comes. live-in couples are living with their parents ? not at all. they just live two of them. then what about the responsibilities of their parents ? and moreover what about children ? thats the main point where it becomes complicated thing. for how many years you will live just like that without having children ? because if they have it without marriage then the child doesn,t get any legal identity. 'family' is the power of our indian culture. thats our strength. western countries are now realizing it. nobody is perfect in this world, my dear. how many 'samples' do you want to test ? somewhere you have to zero. there are advantages & disadvantages of both. but marriages are making family institution which is healthy for society. live-in relations are breaking the families. now you have to decide wether you want to make or break ?
RE:live in relations
by arun shekar on Jul 27, 2007 07:11 PM Permalink
It is not necessary to have children as soon as you are living in or married. It depends on a couples emotional needs not society or culture or religion.
In 95% of the cases, parents satisfy their ego,needs etc through (mostly) sons and the girl he brings in and the family she hails from. So they are selfish.
You are talking about Western country realizing what?? India has one of the lowest Divorce rate but comparable infidelity rate and marital depression more than western countries. According to 2006 UN report, 1 out of 2 children in India is either abused physically or sexually . It is not west, come here to Malaysia, you will see people living freely the way they want and remind you, this is a Muslim country.
Of course those who live in simply out of attraction for a person physically or that they satisfy something they want is a terrible mistake unless they are extremely lucky.
Bottom line, Guys like you...Roam around with as many girls you can bait and hunt, then when the bells ring for marriage you leave them all by giving silly reasons and get married that slim, fair, tall girl preserving our great INDIAN Culture and honoring your parents...and those girls, what about them? who cares right?
