Marriage is a failed Institution. Ask any married man and the tragedy is there. He has lost his life. The marriage has taken away all his joyful life. What remains is just misery. Girls are beautiful before marriage. Something changes in them immediately after marriage. They make a hell for the man. Marriages should be banned.
Live In Relationships is really new concept but I feel it is very good. Stay together, get to know each other, Enjoy life as friends. If still you can get along you can have your children. If you do not get along, just stop the relationship there and depart in search of the real soul mate. The main hurdle in marriages is it is difficult to know whether you are marrying your soul mate or it is just a partnership in Life. Partnership is not good. It becomes business. How can everyone find a soulmate without staying together. In 99% marriages, the marriages are between two bodies not between two souls. Any method to ensure the soul mates live together is good.
RE:Definitely Live In Relationships are far better
by saru saru on Jul 30, 2007 02:56 AM Permalink
if your message conveys that womens make life hell of man then let me tell u mens r also not less when shes new brides they are head over heels for them then what happens later why they find their neighbours wife more beutiful.so it needs two to clap for any relationship to sustain and grow.live in relationship keeps this relationship lively thats true.as after marraige both couple take each other for grant and dont give space.
RE:Definitely Live In Relationships are far better
by manuel dias on Jul 30, 2007 10:48 AM Permalink
What you are saying may be correct. A man feels victimized and wife feels it as her right to victimize a man to ensure that the man is tied with her. We are not discussing to find out who is at fault but to understand the existence of fault lines in this institution of marriage, and these are too big. Instead of enjoying the life together, it becomes a forced bondage. What keeps them bonded even after such a frustrating life ? The fear of unknown future. May be divorced life is enjoyable. But to take that step is very difficult for most, if not all. The husband & wife may not get along with each other but the love for their children is there. The immense love for their children and the desire to provide the best possible parenthood to the children and the frightening thought to make live the child with single parent if divorced, keeps the man tied to this institution of bonded slavery. This institution doesn't make his life happy anymore. It keeps on giving misery. The misery goes on increasing from level I to Level II and so on as the years of married life progress. It is his readiness to sacrifice his own life, his own happiness to ensure that he doesn't falter in his role of a parent. This benefits the women. Instead of creating the atmosphere of happiness, the cunning women just keep on thinking how to make the husband keep on doing slavery to provide physical comforts for her. Whereas the man keeps on hoping for the comforts of his soul, longing for the soul mate.
