What you are saying may be correct. A man feels victimized and wife feels it as her right to victimize a man to ensure that the man is tied with her. We are not discussing to find out who is at fault but to understand the existence of fault lines in this institution of marriage, and these are too big. Instead of enjoying the life together, it becomes a forced bondage. What keeps them bonded even after such a frustrating life ? The fear of unknown future. May be divorced life is enjoyable. But to take that step is very difficult for most, if not all. The husband & wife may not get along with each other but the love for their children is there. The immense love for their children and the desire to provide the best possible parenthood to the children and the frightening thought to make live the child with single parent if divorced, keeps the man tied to this institution of bonded slavery. This institution doesn't make his life happy anymore. It keeps on giving misery. The misery goes on increasing from level I to Level II and so on as the years of married life progress. It is his readiness to sacrifice his own life, his own happiness to ensure that he doesn't falter in his role of a parent. This benefits the women. Instead of creating the atmosphere of happiness, the cunning women just keep on thinking how to make the husband keep on doing slavery to provide physical comforts for her. Whereas the man keeps on hoping for the comforts of his soul, longing for the soul mate.
