We cannot say IT Sector is wrong, the only reason is the young people are getting the jobs while in their last sem itself, otherwise if you can go back 10years...back..everyone who is unemployed...shall be on roads.
RE:IT Companies are doing great!
by Praveen Soma on Aug 25, 2007 05:37 PM Permalink
"Divorce" is not only in IT Sector, but when the parents wish their kids to marry a person US returned..this is the most common site.
It is very common thing to except..since the matrimony site tie up the boy & girl only based on their job, which is not correct. even the gal or boy before marriage wants to be a computer engineer in india or abraod for accepting the proposal, then the next thing they look is the person, even they will not check the status of the person marriage 1st or second..so many gals end up marrying person who is already married. They know after getting married..and it is only one result: divorce.
Responsible for this is only parents.who train up their wards to marry only IT professional the only reason being MONEY>
Surprisingly, no one is stressing upon the last line of the article "Companies should take the intitiative and ensure that their employees get more time at home". Actually THIS will be right solution. Why a man/woman should leave at 8 AM and return at 11 PM ? Why cant the working hours be limited to 8 hours concept? The idea of the employers that 'Pay them well and squeeze them well' is the root cause of all these social impacts. An employee once gets into a job, he or she WILL NATURALLY try to fulfill the demands of the job. The mushy ideas of 'spending some time with loved ones....' etc no more remain practical for them, even if they want. Best would be to pay moderately and extrat moderately. THE EMPLOYERS HAVE TO FOLLOW SOME 'WORK RULES' LIKE LABOUT LAWS, REGARDING DURATION AT WORK.
RE:The rising divorce rate in the IT sector
by Abhijit Das on Aug 26, 2007 02:47 PM Permalink
You have hit the nail on the head my friend. This is the only solution. Hats off to ur rational thinking !!!
RE:The rising divorce rate in the IT sector
by srikanth krishnamoorthy on Aug 26, 2007 04:55 PM Permalink
so called CORPORATE SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY should first begin WITHIN than searching outside to showcase their strength.
RE:The rising divorce rate in the IT sector
by asdf jkl on Aug 27, 2007 01:33 PM Permalink
exactly what I meant. These companies should change their ways. They should not be allowed to squeeze us for 15 hrs/day. There should be something called labour laws.
Don't you think that , it is high time that a concept of corporate volunteerism be introduced in India . As the Corporate Sector represents the richest islands in terms of material resources , they must be truly caring for the social needs . We have a vast sea of educated unemployed youth . Still in India we constantly keep harping the issue of down-sizing ignoring the dire need of right-sizing . Working brings dignity to one's life and everyone should have some productive working opportunities . Bringing everyone in the mainstream is the sole path to peaceful and prosperous society. Can't there be work sharing so as to create more job opportunities , and creating a sense of hope and the positive feeling among our youth community. For example , Can't we have 24 Hrs. Office working , ( Just visualize , how convenient it will be having a round the clock Banking service , as an example) giving a youth 15 shifts a month ( or any other such type of flexible time schedule ) & mandatory indulgence in some social work viz. teaching students a few days in one's nearby school or planting trees in their area , taking care of old people in their families & neighbourhood and endless list of such useful activities . By introducing 15 days a month work schedule will quadruple the employment opportunity for our youth community , and a tremendous work-life balance for them . Social Sector will also get a fillip by getting dedicated manpower at a little cost . There will
RE:Work and Social service together !
by Basant Maheshwari on Aug 25, 2007 06:14 AM Permalink
Consumerism has taken over the institution of marriage.Today married partners are not prepared to be tolerant and adjusting.To keep a marriage ticking requires a lot of work by both partners, taking it granted leads to break up.If a relationship is based on weak foundation it will break up irrespective of work pressure, high end lifestyle,affluence.I see it as a parenting issue.Probably we as parents are too busy in our own agendas of life and give very little time and attention to parenting.The attention and effort we spend on parenting is mostly out of guilt - to make amends to lack of time and attention we pamper are the children to no end.Instead of making efforts to imbibe good values and how one can be a responsibile member of the family and society we spend our energies, money and effort on non-consequential priorities and this way set a wrong precedent for the children. Marriage breakups are taking place up everywhere and blaming ITEE/BPOS sector alone will not be a appropriate.A marriage based on understanding,respect and spirit of sacrifice and adjustment will survive in any given situation.So lets stop blaming work areas /sectors for being responsible for braek up of marriages instead lets try to be good parents and imbibe good values in our children.
Most of the formative years of the child are spent with the mother. The mother discriminates the boy over girl, beauty over character, fair over dark, - a flawed foundation for adulthood - result man considers adult woman as an inferior object, a burden and not an equal partner. The cycle goes on.... Woman vs Woman syndrome, it could be mother in law vs daughter in law or any other woman vs woman relationship which put unnecessary pressure on relationships. Instead of woman for woman, it is the reverse. Women for dowry, womenfolk are the main conspirators for demanding dowry, increasing the marriage expenses, etc. Never ending wants of woman, bigger house, better interiors, etc. Materialistic comparison with peers leading to more pressure on man, ends are not met resulting in career woman at the expense of home. Woman for vulgarity, obscenity %u2013 in the name of artistic talent, it is the woman who willingly sheds her womanhood piece by piece. A part of the vulgarity enters home in the mode of wardrobe, behaviour, entertainment %u2013 more pressure on man.
Woman has the remote control to make it good or bad. Woman is more powerful than man and more corrupt. In most aspects, woman can equal man if not exceed. With the artificial insemination woman cam give way to life, however man cannot give birth and cannot survive without woman%u2026..
good thing about working women is that they dress quite good and looks more attractive compare to house wives but disadvantage is that you will not get much time to spend with her and you have to cook your meal .......
RE:working women
by joshi george on Aug 23, 2007 11:15 AM Permalink
pls. don't point this to blame 'working women' factor. They are coming out of the solcial obstacles, to the main stream. If that is something some men can't take and leading to seperations, let it be.
RE:working women
by vithal thakore on Aug 24, 2007 10:05 AM Permalink
dear joshi dont be egoestic. this is an article where we have to find solutions nor precipate the matter. we have to find a way work and family get adjusted and we leap to future. One of our country's gift to the world is the family system and i think we should not ruin that at any cost. so please be smart and try to solve the problem.
I totally agree. Relationships are changing and if a man doesn't make the effort to meet his wife halfway through and share the burden then there is no point in continuing in a parenership called "marriage".
P.S. - Was this a discussion about divorce rate in IT Sector or a forum to bash working women ? Please find a solution - don't end up victimizing women in the IT sector. I am sure that in most of the cases it is the overworked/overstressed man who is causing the strain in the marriage.
RE:working women
by flying on Aug 29, 2007 12:52 PM Permalink
Sahana, sharing half burden ...but you wont get man who can get pregnant or breast feed your kid... So accept first what nature says ..and then blame men ..... Men and women are equal but not identical...
RE:Percentage would be more appropriate than absolute numbers
by gurunath bhat on Aug 27, 2007 12:26 PM Permalink
No matter how much time u spend in ur company but one shud have the bsaic ethics and even curtaisy to raise to spend some valuable time with the family...inspite of a hectic schd its should with great great affection and care and lots of love for each other and indeed it shud be memorable...
...continued(5 interesting messages in sequence).....I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah...blah...blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
RE:Yes....
by Seema Savant on Aug 22, 2007 09:47 AM Permalink
Such a beautiful n touching story It explains the very essence of marraige so beautifully
...continued...she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an Essential part of his life. My wife gesture to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realise that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hol
