I would like to know amongst those married couples how many couples had both persons working & in how many of those cases the guy applied for divorce & in how many cases the girl applied for divorce. My guess is that most of them were working couples and majority of the applicants were made by the wifes bcoz I think it's the women who gets more easily distracted into affairs with colleagues(Supply Demand situation) as they are lesser in number in IT offices & the unmarried guys make a bee line for them. I have seem that most of the IT guys are a frustated lot & chase girls thinking that they get easily impressed with Infosys/USA/ Dollar(which is true).
These days everybody seem to think high life-style with all the luxuries at the cost of one's married life. If money is the only main purpose in life, then these things happen. If not, let not money take over the happiness from one's life.
Whatever advancement made in this modern age, most of the men can't think great about their better halves doing better in their profession. Hence, if a consensus agreement is there, wife can be a great home-maker and bring up family with all love and affection. All said and done, if a family is ruined, the major chunk of blame is on the wife even if she is not at fault. Hence my sincere opinion is to be a good wife, a good mother and a good companion to the man in her life.
RE:Can avoid divorces
by busy bee on Aug 02, 2007 05:10 PM Permalink
Its not just a woman who has to be a good wife & mother & companion. I believe the relationship is from both sides. Husband too is equally responsible for good/bad things happening in thier life. Even he should give his full/Best to family,which doesn't mean just money or facilities, it includes affection, quality time also. I am in IT and my husband too but we still keep our personal& professional life separate. One has to decide upon the priorities in life.
RE:Can avoid divorces
by bhaskar on Aug 02, 2007 04:28 PM Permalink
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I would like to know amongst those married couples how many couples had both persons working & in how many of those cases the guy applied for divorce & in how many cases the girl applied for divorce. My guess is that most of them were working couples and majority of the applicants were made by the wifes bcoz I think it's the women who gets more easily distracted into affairs with colleagues(Supply Demand situation) as they are lesser in number in IT offices & the unmarried guys make a bee line for them. I have seem that most of the IT guys are a frustated lot & chase girls thinking that they get easily impressed with Infosys/USA/ Dollar(which is true).
RE:Due to mental stress increase the impotency
by suresh vaggannavar on Aug 02, 2007 04:29 PM Permalink
Long working hours under mental stress causes the impotency.
But it wont affect India's population growth rate.
i am pratap from Hyderabad. if company's try to put day shift for married person then problem solved. and un- married person doing very good job for night shift. i think its good option to save anyone relationship. and its not for company work every couples try to avoid night shift job. then they share time to each other and make a happy life also.
RE:everyone write topic but no one write the solution
by suresh vaggannavar on Aug 02, 2007 04:32 PM Permalink
According to you night shift for un- married and day shift for married, birth rate automatically increases and India defeat China easily good idea man.
RE:everyone write topic but no one write the solution
by busy bee on Aug 02, 2007 05:12 PM Permalink
otherwise also do you se birth rate coming down ?? :-)
1.5 years ago, when I got married, I worked in a maintainance project where I'd to work between 14:00 to 22:00 I'd lot of time to spend with my Wife.
Now I work for an upgrade project where I've to work for about 14 hours 2 days in a week & 12 hours easily everyday. I'm hardly getting time to talk to my Wife. However, I admit that since we'd spent lot of time together after marriage, we developed strong bond & that's the one that is helping our life now.
Although I travel about 80 Kms a day to work, I'm fortunate to have my work place & home in same place. Though fortunate, I'm able to spend only Sundays peacefully at home. Even during this difficult times where I'm unable to speak to my Wife, I ensure that I take off atleast once a month & spend sometime together. Believe me it help, just open up when there are conflicts & resolve them then & there, its helping us a lot.
RE:RE:RE:Well it depends...
by Rohini Nair on Aug 02, 2007 04:24 PM Permalink
May be you have tasted the joyness of your wife enjoying your neighbour's ball everytime you step out!! That is why you always speak about neighbour. Your experience speaks so much!! Good!! Keep it up and give enough time for your wife!! Very understanding!! Keep her happy atleast that way buddy
The reason is not only bcos of physical relationship, also bcos of Mental relationship. I do not want to blame on the young couples alone,to be shared by their respective parents also. My friend got married recently and now they are in Bangalore court for divorce. Both are from IT. Whatever the job we do, at the centre, the elders should talk about what is life, love, affection, give and take policy, but for the generation who re in courts, the elders told only about Money, Career, USA, Australia and London. Nothing else. My friend's wife siply told him on the third day o their family life that, u have canteen in ur office and I have in my office and so let us have our Breakfast and lunch there, dinner we will have at any restaurants on the way. Weekends pacca outside...People in this forum will call me as anything, but the fact is different.
In the end, I would like to say one thing, Iam a HR Guy in a software company and married to a software engineer, currently in UK for for a project.
RE:Divorce Rate
by Rohini Nair on Aug 02, 2007 04:28 PM Permalink
I fully agree with you RK. It is only money and stay in foreign countries mattering the most than the relationship. I pity on your friend who have such a girl who does not value a relationship. If that was her stand, then your friend could have married a hotellier's girl na...so that he need not go to different restaurant for breakfast, lunch and dinner. He can have it without any expense, right?
RE:Divorce Rate
by ramakrishnan kesavaprakash on Aug 02, 2007 06:42 PM Permalink
madam, I want to reply to ur last line with another xample, but my heart is not allowing to write...Please understand
RE:Divorce Rate
by bhaskar on Aug 02, 2007 04:37 PM Permalink
Visit any matrimonial site and click on any goodlooking girls photograph. Preferred Location of groom : USA/UK/Canada/Australia/New Zealand/ France/Sweden/Germany etc etc one girl also put Finland.
RE:Lawyer avialable...
by PRATAP PARIDA on Aug 02, 2007 04:15 PM Permalink
if company's try to put day shift for married person then problem solved. and un- married person doing very good job for night shift. i think its good option to save anyone relationship. and its not for company work every couples try to avoid night shift job. then they share time to each other and make a happy life also.
RE:RE:RE:Lawyer avialable...
by manertesha on Aug 02, 2007 04:20 PM Permalink
you r right......? unmarried person do everything so efficiently @night shift,,,,i agree and i am doing it to 100% satisfaction...
