Will you mind your tongue. Do not blame all the girls for what ever happened in your life. Any girl will never accept you at all because you are too restricted, narrow minded and self-centered. I have never seen any girls going for terrorist guys. Also if brahmin girls are going for non-brahmin guys. So you have become a judgemental here and categorized those guys are terrorist and gundas.
problem with people like you is you guys are always prejudiced and thats why you see all things in life with a prejudiced angle. Grow up and open your eyes.
Dear friends, I thought about "Love Marriage a big adjustment" for long time. I have this queries to the author according to my understanding of LOVE. I believe when there is love, we tend to give everything we have to see to it that our beloved is happy and we tend to go out of way to see to it that our beloved is not hurt and is happy with us. And why do a person all this for his beloved???? obviously coz he loves his beloved and in doing so he is also happy. So where is question of adjustment for my understanding of adjustment is something that we are doing forcely without any personal interest which again gives a conclusion that there is no LOVE. So i believe that these two words (LOVE and ADJUSTMENT) cannot exist in one place. It should be only one word in one situation or place or moment.And coming to LOVE MARRIAGE. I think any marriage can have a rough road if there is no LOVE whether it is LOVE MARRIAGE or ARRANGED MARRIAGE.It is possible that coz of some conservative and orthodox mind set we might think that luv marr is a bbb adj.Once we make ourselves open minded and intergral then we realize that it is love which is imp and it is there then is no place for adjustment.
Its highly criticised to mention One category is right and another is wrong... Always ... Love and the married life after love relies on partner's attitude and his mentality. Similarly in arranged marriage also the same.. Everywhere the adjustment factor is really.. High..
To have a great successful family Life, I guess the woman should play an important role rather than Man.
If one love marriage doesnt work or fail, or has got some problems we start talking about it and project it as that the love marriahes are not successful. We should go and count the figures and facts if we have to really see which is one working the love or the arrange. You will realise every next arrange marriage has a problem and relation is strugling the day it started. But nothing much is talked about it. The reality is unless you taste it you will not realise the fact. So lets find out the facts and fugures and it would help everyone. Shall have a survey on national level. what say
RE:love marriage
by swami on Jun 09, 2006 10:22 PM Permalink
I agree with Sushmita and Sushma. Love marriage is all about sacrifice without any reciprocation. My life is a good example. One person sacrifices everything including "peace of mind".
Hi, In my opinion, there r lots of differnce in between love and arrange marriage. Arrange marriage is must secure than love marriage. In love marriage, everybody knew each other before marriage, so they forget to respect each other as they knew their falty points.
Adjustment! Adjust to each others family, customs, culture. Hear & care each others concerns. Think in your partners way not from your own way. Marriage (Love or Arranged) works fine when you show lots of patience.
In my opinion marrige either love or arrenge depends upon trust and mutual understanding. Many problems happen in love marriage as well as arrenge marrige. Every aspects have the advantages also and disadvantage also. meenakshi
Both forms of marriages come with their pros and cons - if you can't adjust with life after marriage, either kind of marriage will fail!
My personal opinion is that in India, most (not all) people going for love marriage anyway show less adjustment, so sometime strains are more in love marriages. But once love marriages become more prevelant, those strains should go away.
