see, this is two sides of a coin. love marriages are good for society to encourage society. but it is misleading to lass. Lasses are prefering bad guys just by one or two incidents. on the other hand, arranged marriages, people addict to their parents, so they behave accordingly. that's why these are successful. if at all any problem comes, parents will take care of that. but love marriages are not like that. I advise to Lass! just by one or two incidents never conclude about a lad.
Its not just the question of adjustments whether in love or arranged marriages.What really matters is the flexibility level you can reach after realising the intricate relationships in the new atmosphere of your life.Sometimes without getting married also a person has to do a lot of adjustments.Then why just crib about the aftermath of marriage.After all a human being shud be able to draw margins in his life as to where he shud stop and what is he actually doing.
It is not prudent to call off love marriages as one that needs adjustments. In fact it is one way of finding a person you can trust to spend your whole life with. After understanding a person if you choose to live with him, there may be far less chances of anytghing going wrong.
in my experience arranged marriage is successful instead of love marriage because when the parents arrange marriage they have seen all aspects like family background, financial position, status etc.etc. If someone get love marriage after marriage they are facing lot of problems like financial & they blame each other and nobody support them at this stage.
Friends,I had been reading all the postings each of yours.Let me share my opinion on love and my experience. Love has a wide range of qualities dependng on how you love and being loved.It has many side biases like attraction,infactuation,money,fame, beauty etc..These sort of biases dont last long,and when they are gone LOVE rethinks again,where the problem starts.True love dont depend on these temporary factors..it needs only TRUST,Character and attitude match.Attitude is boundry drawn by one defining himself what is good and bad forhim.Theres nothing in life and world defined as good and bad.Good to me can be bad for others and v.v.when love starts in such perseption there is no lookback in life until we break our boundaries we made before. Am never interested in love until my enginering,She is my clasmate and good friend to me till 2nd year.Then slowly she went indeep love with me and wanted to marry me when I am nothing in this world.Ican say strongly there is no reason she loved me except for my character.She trusted me so much that one day I would prove myself what I am,I done it to her expectations.Now she is a scientist and I work in abroad inan MNC andgetting married soon
today, the objective of most of the boys and especially girls is to have love marriage. whatever the partner is, by rejecting, hurting and destroying family values, rituals and respect.
well many boys want to have love marriages, so they are trying everything, to whatever attracting girls.
many boys are now realising that girls having affair or love marriage with smokers, drunkers, gundas and other notorious one.coz, so many good decent well educated boys or non-smokers or drunkers are also started to smoke and drink to gain love from girl.
so, my request for good cultured boys is to pls dont addict to bad habits just bcoz of girls. dont pretend like gundas and show style infront of stupid girls.
see, dont pretend, all good cultured boys are good boys only. but it is not in the case of girls. girls like only real gundas.
most of the todays girls want to have love marriage that is out of their caste. girls hate her family dignity, rituals and traditions. so, she intentionally and purposely having love marriage with other caste and notorious people. it is not my Own experience. it's reality.
WHERE ARE TRUE GIRLS FOR LOVE MARRIAGES WITH GOOD BOYS?
well, today there is no love marriages for good boys with good culture backgrounds and higher qualifications. if any boy with good nature, qualifications and culture proposes any girl, he will be rejected, even though he has close mutual understanding with her. in contrary to this, suppose any notorious people proposes she turns her mind towards him whether she knows him or not she becomes closer to him intentionally within two days and she only goes and proposes him. or she accepts his proposal at the first time. well, many handsome and well educated boys with good culture, they dont know, many cultured well educated girls only having secret and bulshit affairs with unpredictable chaps.
well, in short, there is no sense for good fair,cultured and educated boys to love or marry girls.
if you are a gunda, terrorists like pakistani caste, notorious and uneducated bad culture guy, then love marriages are open for u. GO ahead. many girls are waiting for u.
Yes it is absolutely true that love marraige is too much adjustment becoz after marraige only u come to terms with the negative part of your partner before that both of them are too cool and understanding but after marraige this all goes and small small things makes big issue just out of frustation coz both come to know each others merits and demerits atleast in arranged marraige everything takes time to come to light and both are able to manage it pretty cool coz they see good and bad both at the same time but in love marraige all is good before and all bads come after marraige, life becomes nothing more than a bag of compromizes if u really want to stay in the relation or else there is nothing easy then getting divorced or separated, its very essential that one of them has to compromize to such an extent that the other gains suprimacy and avoid useless discussions which are a hot bed for fights, it applies to both husband or wife, and now a days husbands are becoming more and more submissive than wifes and I am one of them, It doesnt mean that I am JORU KA GHULAM.I had taken this stand to save the relation, which has resulted only out of love not hatred.......
