This is a wonderful initiative by the government. This needs enough publicity on all TV channels and Radio. Hope with this more safe environment is built for bride's abroad.
Apropos to your article on the NRI marriage booklet. I am saddened by the generalisation and pin-pointing metted out to NRI grooms. Not everyone is out to con the bride's parents in India. I do agree that there are a number of NRI who take advantage of their status and fool families in India but it is also true that a significantly large number of brides leave India and have a very comfortable and quality life.
Husbands not treating their wifes properly is more widespread in India itself and NRI con-grooms are a small percentage of the actual happy marriages that take place between NRI grooms and Indian brides. Moreover, a large number of girls or their families are more interested in having a NRI groom and actually advertise as such, seeeing it as a shortcut to happiness and prosperity.
I just want to put across the other side of the story. I got married in 2004 and took my wife to my country of residence. But soon found out that all she wanted from me was a lot of money to spend on herself and her parents. She basically wanted me to cut-off contact from my parents so that she could call her parents to live with me. We are divorced now. I was lucky.
The draft posted by MOIA for discussion is seems to be completely biased towards women. If you go through the booklet that MOIA has drafted (on recommendation from NCW), booklet on page 10, there is discussion only about women rights and no point for Men rights! The abuses mentioned on pages 10 and 11 may be from either side and it is not always from men side. On page 12, there are no points mentioned if women do the same thing as mentioned under subheading Husband. This clearly indicates the gender biasness in making such draft just to benefit only women by harassing men. About Restitution of conjugal rights on page 12 and 13, it mentions that if husband has deserted the wife.why cant mention if wife desert her husband. There are many recent cases which are the witness of this trend. On page 14, under subheading concept of streedhan how can she alone have the right to gift or dispose of her property as she desires. No one else has right on it!
In a nutshell, the booklet should provide fair information with all necessary details without being biased towards gender.
Good Goverance at last. Present Government is doing its best to make life in India a better place. Three Cheers to Dr. Manmohan Singh and his team. And Also to President of India Sir APJ Abdul Kalam
There is so much trouble caused to innocent NRI grooms by scheming women and their families by misuse of section 498A. The women who have not even stayed with their husband or his family allege dowry harassment and violence and get the family of the groom in trouble and when he comes here to settle it, they immediately try to extort money from him. This problem is so rampant that USA has issued guidelines to grooms when it comes to marrying women from India. But India's politically correct media and politicians will never admit it anyway thanks to organizations like the National Commission for Women which try to grab as much public money as possible by giving only one side of the story.
The examples u cited were heart rendering as it could happen with any of our sisters here but the fact still remains Why bloody Marry An N.R.I.?? If u wish to venture abroad educate yourself, empower yourself then u will be respected in your own country let alone abroad.These Prospective Father In Laws just behave so partial to these N.R.I's as if we native Indian's who even though are decently placed appear as gutter weeds and those N.R.I'S no matter what they do their are Princes. Even the Brides just do not want a local city guy no matter where he works and will openly flaunt their choices. I give more respect to the thousands of girls who work as professionals They rarely get get duped cause they are more tuned to reality and hardships. The problem is not with The N.R.I'S but with us who are standing in the market place to sell our sisters to the most prospective N.R.I's.
Get REALISTIC Guys cause no amount of Goverment Laws can change this crime but a little bit of education and caution can save a lot of girls.
IT has become fashionable for wome to marry NRIS for the purposed of immigration and then claim that they were harassed and claim lot of money through SOWRY ( Reverse Dowr ) harassment The Dowry immigration fraud has become so rampant that USA and Canadian Embesies have warnin to NRIs against marrying Indian Women
AS "the government also plans to amend existing laws to make registration of all marriages involving Indian brides and NRI grooms compulsory. " It should be also made compulsory to state(during marriage registration) by both groom and bride that no dowry was taken or given during marriage. Haryana Govt has already take step in this direction , when ever someone joins Haryana Govt. he/she has to declare that no dowry was take or given.
there are few wise things in the article about marrying. but i thing dear writer forgot that even NRI is human being and people who are living in overseas are much more sensitive and civilized when it comes to exploitation and harressment of one's own wife. one or two cases like those doesnt make an NRI chracter assicnation which the article depicts. although if something has to go wrong in a marriage , it does happen in any part of the world. it is such a shame that even with high quality education and all the best understanding of life , people in IND get their daugthers married to pay packets not to the actual guy. NRi still give greater importance to their cultural values , otehrwise they wont be getting married in IND. probably be best suggestion to anyone who thinks the way writer wants , needs to live in overseas and he will come to conclusion that society here is much much more civilized. some one said it rightly , half knowledge is really dangerous thing..
Very practical and an excellent list!!! If a guy proves all that, he will be in CIA!!!!. Marriage and relationships are built on trust, i do agree there are some cheats out there... but don't make every man look a "criminal unless proved". How about adding these
- A caution deposit.... hmmm how about a million dollars? - A GPS unit planted in the guys brain or heart to track him 24/7? - A remote control to handle the guy?
Poor girl and parents have to go through all this hassle to marry a NRI. My sympathies are with them, but a simple question is why marry a NRI? Why not a guy in India... will make lots of people's life hassle free.
