I think people do not truly 'love' each other anymore. "Love" is now associated with selfishness, desire and sex. This leads to jealousy and possessiveness, which can unfortunately turn violent, like in this case.
True love is never possessive. True love reuqires compassion and selflessness; it means that you love the other person more that yourself, and do everything in your power to keep him/her happy, but do not expect anything in return.
True love reuqires that a couple view each other as free birds, not birds enclosed in a golden cage. And if someone spurns or rejects your love, you should not be broken or angry; you should feel sorry for the other person because he/she would be missing out on a such a lot treasure of love from your heart. maybe someone else would now share the love.
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause
by goyyale on May 23, 2008 03:01 PM Permalink
Dude go to bollywood and tell the story.. Who knows .. u can be come a director there///?
Most of the directors run their show by keeping a single story directed in different angles// try there dude.
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause
by karthik krishnan on May 23, 2008 05:16 PM Permalink
Honestly, I disagree...I have delved deep into human psyche based on practical situations and impartial observations.
My Findings:
1. You give a woman your attention, she will like it. I have gotten away with looking and even having a look of incredulous admiration while ogling at a woman and had her do nothing but smile back brightly. Because my mouth was shut.
2. But men can't stop there. They have to make a lewd remark. This pisses them off.
3. Men are animalistic. They cannot stop once they find their mate. They still need to keep mating. Women however are not that way...they will move only when they feel suffocated. This is not a generalisation. It holds good in every case.
The woman killing the guy is just an extreme case of aggression in a relationship. Let me promise you even if your woman agrees that you'll have an "open relationship" she is bound to get possessive at some point or the other.
Men need to shape up, or ship their arses our. Simple. I am telling this from practical experience.
I Know how it feels when the one you love is screwing around...and I know what it makes me feel like doing too.
That is common to both man and woman. We need to take a second look on the values and standards in relationships...only that will help us reduce such incidents.
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause
by Ayan Roy on May 23, 2008 03:05 PM Permalink
Thanks for copying my message! I'm not being sarcastic. Hope you can spread it to more people.
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause
by Rajesh Sharma on May 23, 2008 03:36 PM Permalink
Shame on you JAICHAND,How could you do this to AYAN you copied his entire message and pasted as your own.
As far as I remember you are the one who was very negative and sarcastic about India and Indians in your previous postings.
I Now I have understood who brings shame to India.
RE:Do shomething Shiva Sena and leave poormen
by Anuj Kansal on May 23, 2008 03:00 PM Permalink
You have no right to comment on any community. True that BANIYAs know that how to make money, but they earn only from the genuine sources.
RE:Do shomething Shiva Sena and leave poormen
by goyyale on May 23, 2008 03:02 PM Permalink
what genuine source? i came to bombay.. everybody looks like kidney stealers... All money are coming from gulf and underground business..
Look at the list of murders which are haoppening in recent times. Its all b coz of women. Most of the women have extra marital relationship and men are becoming jealous b coz of that, Men shud control his anger.
RE:Its only b coz of women...
by goyyale on May 23, 2008 02:48 PM Permalink
whatever karan johar showed in kabhi alvida na kehna is true in this world. Extra marital releationships are happeening in india. Its upto u take u r self and run u r family.
I think people do not truly 'love' each other anymore. "Love" is now associated with selfishness, desire and sex. This leads to jealousy and possessiveness, which can unfortunately turn violent, like in this case.
True love is never possessive. True love reuqires compassion and selflessness; it means that you love the other person more that yourself, and do everything in your power to keep him/her happy, but do not expect anything in return.
True love reuqires that a couple view each other as free birds, not birds enclosed in a golden cage. And if someone spurns or rejects your love, you should not be broken or angry; you should feel sorry for the other person because he/she would be missing out on a such a lot treasure of love from your heart. maybe someone else would now share the love.
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause.
by Kurian George on May 23, 2008 02:50 PM Permalink
Wow man! I am like..really blown away..I mean..its hard to find people who can talk about stuff like that ..soo truthfully like you just did..Good luck man !
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause.
by Ayan Roy on May 23, 2008 02:56 PM Permalink
It's not hard; just look into yourself! Thank you Kurian and good luck to you too!
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause.
by upindersingh on May 23, 2008 02:44 PM Permalink
Is the writer of this message above for real..? In case you are ... Hats off to you dear !
RE:RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause.
by Ayan Roy on May 23, 2008 02:48 PM Permalink
thank you Upinder. The simple fact which all spiritual gurus and prophets have kept on saying again and again is that 'True self-happiness comes only from making others happy'. Sad that most people are ignorant of this wonderful mantra these days.
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause.
by krishna tripathi on May 23, 2008 02:57 PM Permalink
although u seem to be correct... there is one point which needs to be elaborated.. sex is the begining of all oposite attractions...
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause.
by Anuj Kansal on May 23, 2008 03:07 PM Permalink
Really, i m impressed. It seems that you r also in love.
RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause.
by goyyale on May 23, 2008 02:55 PM Permalink
Dude go to bollywood and tell the story.. Who knows .. u can be come a director there///?
RE:RE:Lack of compassion and selflessness is the cause.
by Ayan Roy on May 23, 2008 02:58 PM Permalink
Trust me, Bollywood needs such stories! Too many films focus on lust, desire, jealousy, money, sex. Why not focus on true love and compassion? See the film "Amelie" and you will know what I mean.
I don't know but these are unnecessary. Oil and Water don't mix, never did and never will. Basic question, why fight? It's simply not worth for a second class creature who don't gave passion or feelings and always after money.
REDIFF YOU HAVE TO BE BLAMED. THE MEDIA IS EQUALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR BLOWING THINGS OUT OF PROPORTION. MEDIA DOESN'T WORK IN CONJUNCTION WITH THE POLICE OR DOESNT DO ANY RESEARCH BEFORE PUBLISHING DISTORTED FACTS IN MANY CASES.
FOR EXAMPLE, IF THEIR IS FLOOD AND PEOPLE HAS DIED DIFFERENT TV CHANNELS, NEWSPAPERS, ETC. GIVE DIFFERENT FIGURES OF CASUALTIES AND ULTIMATELY THE GOVT. & POLICE HAVE THEIR OWN RECORDS WHICH IS NOWHERE TO THIS.
RE:BLAME REDIFF
by Rich Man on May 23, 2008 02:30 PM Permalink
Mr.Millionaire, I agree with your view partly. The Media should concentrate more on giving positive news of happenings around. Negative News should not be blown out of proportion. Many young children are watching TV, etc. and are well aware. The media have channelised itself into a negative channel to have higher TRPs, etc. If you have negative side of a society then equally you a positive side of it also, this media should remember and highlight.
RE:BLAME REDIFF
by Shyam on May 26, 2008 12:00 PM Permalink
True that media is most important contributor for this erosion of values. Simply because there is foreign money invested, they want Anchors be dressed like non-Indians - coats, suits, pants, skirts, everything but Indianised dress like Sarees or Salwar suit. Thanks to DD, they are better in this and are not copying private channels. Secondly, most private channels want some news every minute and they start chasing news, exaggerate some non-existant issue - whether it is child fallen in borewell, or a dog sleeping with a pig, or any nonsense. They keep flashing this as all-important till they get some other nonsense. The news cravy situation should change to getting worthy news for public. One entire day one channel will make exclusive research of all lovers points in the city, give the road map, show each spot where a guy is doing nonsense with a girl - don't know if the channel has managed actors to sit there giving a good look to the coverage! But such things do a great harm to younger groups particularly teenagers. What do the Channels want? Money at the cost of Nation? Why can't the government monitor such things? Channels cannot flourish by money alone, they need a strong country with them.
RE:Having two boyfriends is like playing with fire
by Reston Rebello on May 23, 2008 03:12 PM Permalink | Hide message
Yes, I agree with you: The female should keep only 1 guy at a time; and, if she feels the need for another, terminate the current relationship(or the guy before he retaliates - like what happened to the TCS networking engineer). Increase the frequency of Make/Break....
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