Iam going to marry my best friend whom i know from past 5 years. We r committed to each other 8 months back. So far no serious fights between us. We know each other very well. And i think it works wonderfully...
Yeah I think it%u2019s best thing to marry your Best friend. If both of them knows each other very well then life ll be a smooth sailing over the high n low tides of the life. There is trust, love, sharing all the feelings and a friend is always there through ups & downs. So have faith in your relationship, if you think you wanna get married then trust, respect each others.
%u201Cthose who dream sky is the limit, but for me (as in aerospace)sky is my home%u201D suhas
Yeah I think it%u2019s best thing to marry your Best friend. If both of them knows each other very well then life ll be a smooth sailing over the high n low tides of the life. There is trust, love, sharing all the feelings and a friend is always there through ups n downs. So have faith in your relationship, if you think you wanna get married then trust, respect each others. :)
%u201Cthose who dream sky is the limit, but for me (as in aerospace)sky is my home%u201D suhas
I got married to a friend who was was known to me for 8 years. We were good friends for 4 years, but after 2 years, I started to feel that she has all the qualities that I was looking for, in a partner, but was nervous to check if she felt the same. We disclosed this to each other after another year and then started the real test of our life which took away 4 years of our precious youth. But we were very clear that we will not get married in the absence of our parents or without their knowledge. Once we got married, another phase began and everybody knows how a working daughter-in-law would be treated. Nevertheless, we are happily married now for 8 years. I always feel it is good to get married to a good friend if it is acceptable to both. If you get married to someone else, it will be difficult to carry on with the friendship unless you have a very understanding partner and you will be risking both the relationships.
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by dhinesh kv on Apr 16, 2008 02:11 PM Permalink
Its good to see good married relationships between good friends, congrats and all the very best.
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by krishna tripathi on Apr 16, 2008 03:46 PM Permalink
what do mean by "everybody knows how a working daughter-in-law would be treated"??
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by satyanarayan panigrahi on Apr 16, 2008 02:48 PM Permalink
Hello Nepoleon!!!! Good to know about your experience.i agree that your best friend can also be your wife too.But for this certain small wet tests are there: before going ahead to propose her look for the qualities you want in your wife..then take decision and for few moments till you have come out of the dilemma hold on your emotions not to impact your decision.Once you are through then again life is good as usual.At least you saved two lifes/friendship by realising it prctically if your friend doesn't suit your hopes. Just think buddy how romantic you will feel when you will have your best friend-now-girlfriend-now-wife in your embrace and thinking of the happy times.It fills in a very powerful energy with in us.I think little brian with a pinch of hope and a bookay of emotions will make your life full/content and happening. And when you have done this much ground work you have to wait when your partner understands it,spare sometime boss for this and you will reap fruits in your coming life.Else use body alnguage..and then tell her frankly how you wanted the relationship to grow.And the girl will have two options then only.No third to confuse you more as you have done the ground work.She will agree or deny and go back.In that case also don't worry ans let her go back because there is someone elsr for you.And guys if you realy loved to read the topic & you are not the type who use & play with girls..stayaway from boyish bettings to do s'thing which you'll regret later.
RE:REDIFF UR IMMPOSSIBLE.
by great on Apr 16, 2008 12:18 PM Permalink
trusth is bitter ,n moderator will remove it i know,but i warn him if he removes ill post this again n again.
Having said that, the decision in India is a combination of two -Individual & Family. With the raising change in social system, individual thought process, the formulas have changed and calculations have changed %u2013 may be less in family side but more in individualistic point of view. More over the thought process of new age youth is derived from practical lessons, consequences. This may be because of, decline of trust with respect to the old marriage framework, lack of acceptance level with the life and moving away from the disciplined life or defined life style- there may not be a single reason, if there must be a reason%u201D
And some crowd (unfortunately more than 50% in metro) tends to the wrong belief that marriage decision has nothing to do with Parents and their happiness. These are what reflected as %u2018secret marriages, run-away cases, extra marital affair & other big disputes. Despite the fact that, these things keep the parents in dark and hurt them immensely%u201D
So just to conclude (actually there can not be any conclusion as there is nothing like best-decision here) %u2026..%u201CAs long as it%u2019s completely convincing to the boy and girl, and OK to parents, better there is a GO%u201D
Marriages can succeed or fail %u2013 both arranged or love! And the truth prevails %u201Cmarriage is something you can not always live with it, at the same time you can not always live without it.%u201D
