And in that case there is nothing wrong marrying him/her. "Best-Friendship between two opposite genders" is not possible... if it happens then it is a form of love, which both of them are shying away from acknowledging. In such cases, it is always better to sort it out among the two, acknowledge love to each other and get happy ever after !!
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by Nitesh Sonalkar on Apr 16, 2008 11:25 AM Permalink
Yes, I totally agree. Two people of opposite genders cant just be best friends, there is always an element of unacknowledged, unrevealed love involved, either with one of them or both. And if not, then they are not the best friends..but just good friends.
there are 2 sides to it....51% it is not advisable to marry ur best friend coz u can never look at them as ur life partner....49% the comfortableness between ur best pal and you will be so much sometimes you tend to slip the thin line....and its good feeling as well....
ENJOY WITH THE WRONG ONES UNTILL U FIND THE RIGHT ONE..... This is the theory which works.... People r never satisfied with wat they have, they always long 4 something more BETTER....
Marrying a best friend is not a good idea. Friends are for to help when no one can help. Marriage to a best friend leaves you no one to share anything and you are deprived of best advice. Best friend is like a god in whom you can have faith and who can boost your life without even praying.
RE:Marrying a best friend?
by Nelson Dsouza on Apr 16, 2008 09:54 AM Permalink
how many best friends will be with you for life long. once they get committed nobody will come for your help. eveybody in life have their own priorities. as life goes on and you are in your 30 and 40 you have to handle your own problems. why on earth do you want to rely on somebodys advice. arent you that strong to take your own decisions and decide what is right and what is wrong. come on, grow up.
RE:Marrying a best friend?
by M Kisan on Apr 16, 2008 10:58 AM Permalink
A best friend need not come for help if s/he is incapable of doing so even when unmarried. Most of us will not break a friendship on that account. If it happens that person was not a true friend in the first place.
After marriage this instances of incapability should be expected to increase many folds.
However, marrying a best friend is still may not a good idea, if you are expecting that the friendship will last forever. It may not happen in many cases. There are just too many compromises and sacrifices to be made in a married life.
RE:Marrying a best friend?
by Rajkumar Ebenezer on Apr 16, 2008 10:06 AM Permalink
This is true! becoz a best friend is always a best friend in whom we trust and share. But when relationship changes to lifepartner, the trust, love and other essence will also tend to change.
Secondly we can share all (all means ALL) things with your best friend, but when he or she becomes your life partner, we cant share everything as we need to maintain a healthy relationship we tend to hide few things.
Finally, as the days go by and in the process of hiding few things, one tend to search for another best friend to share, which lead to relationship break down. Also the existing partner may feel that my best friend turned a life partner is not as good as before, and thus causing bitterness in Life.
friends are like diamonds, they are forever , so there may be a chance that the marriage is successful. But there are few potential problems to be pondered about
Confusion over your feeling - Is your partner a freind or your love . Loving each other is totally different with being in love with each other. You may loose one to get another.
Romance meter - Love and marriage had an essential indigrand as romance . Best friends always want to talk to each other and tend to know each other better. You will tend to forget to be passionate with each other which can make the love die.
WHo is your best freind Now : - When you have some problem you run to your best friend.. Now your best friend is your better half and in case of any problem who will be your best friend now ??
I must say , Close friends are always open to each other, Lovers should always be close to each other.
Friendship and marriage are two separate things... and while one can culminate into the other... either must die for the other to survive(as they say in Harry Potter)...
The main problem with marrying your best friend is.. you can't have a fight with him/her and not talk for a week.. and then make up....
Marriage changes a lot of things... it sort of forces you to live together... raise a family.... so while good friends can marry and live happily.. that glint of friendship is lost under the burden of responsibility and accountability.. Friendship has no strings attached to it... Its pure and dynamic..
if you can bring that same dynamism into your marriage.. then it doesn't matter whether your wife is your best friend or a complete stranger....
As the last word.. since most 'best' friendships of the opposite sex.. end in infatuation/love... marrying ones best friend is a good idea.. if she is a person worth loving..
No point in rejecting a good person just because she is your best friend... That would be loads of nonsense....
RE:Friendship and Marriage are two separate things...
by dinesh rotherpal on Apr 16, 2008 12:53 AM Permalink
I fully agree with you because marriage is all about commitment, accontabilty, responsibility. In most of the cases it is at the cost of love & friendship.
I dont think its a good idea. When you are friends, there are still somethings they dont share; well they cant see it then after all they are best friends. But being married is all about 24*7 together.. every angle every emotion, may be they start seeing two different people suddenly and end up in bad taste. Let friendship be friendship, well I can say the other way round is ok, if your wife is your best friend, then you will be a good human being and the family wil be happy forever.
RE:RE:Not a good idea
by sunil suyal on Apr 16, 2008 08:54 AM Permalink
Yes sir,im also agree with ur opinion. 2close frnds r just like our eyes,they blink 2gether,they see 2gether ...... thats the true relation man.... sunil suyal,gwalior
RE:Sex Machine
by opinions on Apr 16, 2008 07:07 AM Permalink
huh looks like uve totally got hte wrong impression, Karl!
totally agree with jasmine! if you marry your best friend, you totally understand each other, know each others plusses and minuses and can relate to one another. i believe marriage requires friendship and if it happens with ur best friend, it cant get any better.
Marrying a best friend is the best things one can get.But how many days it will last, all depends on attitude of both.In other marrige also trere is equal chace of gettig worse.
RE:best
by AK Kumar on Apr 16, 2008 12:35 AM Permalink
You should never marry your best friend because if you do so, you will lose your friend for ever. Keep a friend as a cushion to protect you against life's ups and downs.
A husband or a wife can rarely, rarely be a good friend. Its actually very rare, and people who should aloud that their spouse is their best friend, are most probably posturing or lying. Marriage an institution of compromise whereas friendship is an institution based on understanding.
RE:best
by teenu gupta on Apr 16, 2008 08:46 AM Permalink
buddy i dont agree with ur statement. Indian culture has always taught that husband and wife r to be like two souls bound in one body. the seven circles if i can say so dont end up in 15 minutes. its a ritual which actually gives u knowledge about living together. but today in life's fast pace every value and culture is lost. male or man kind that is have always felt superior about themselves. though thats not the case. its the other way round. women empower us. we actullay live by their strength but never reflect it. men tend to enjoy themselves and take their spouses for granted. they drink, smoke and do all that is not meant to be done. they talk about their wifes as if they r just not human. men care for their feelings and wants first. being human is about caring for others and being ur true self. so be it an aranged marrige or a love marrige or marrying ur best friend. all one needs to do is actually be good himself. and everything works out. thats my point of view about life with any female.
