i do know where the world is going , but it is definetely going to end , all those are going against God , be careful , u will judged severely and will be sent to hell , a child can be hit by there parents , dont bring in new things , which may lead u to hell , have a clean conscience and fear God
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by rubertina uttanwalla on Jun 25, 2007 05:51 PM Permalink
dont talk like an idiot, i m sure God himself will punish u if u hit ur children. Being strict is absolutely necessary but that does not mean bashing up kids, that will only make them violent in future. Love and understanding goes a long way in discipling a child (plz do not confuse it with the word PAMPERING)and with regards to the world ending and going against God, it is the adults who have to think about it, not kids. Its we adults who sin more not the kids.
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by on Nov 12, 2007 08:30 PM Permalink
hi ruby,
this is harsh. i am trying to track you for last 4 years after the mistake i made in Mumbai . please if you are the same one i am looking for please reply ASAP. i will be close by oin the 21st.
RE:oh ho
by ax jeyaprakash on Jun 25, 2007 04:57 PM Permalink
I am an indian living in UK .I have learnt from UK culture that from early childhood period if you take care of your child well by understanding its needs ( not just food ,sleep ,toilet as most indians think) but also its space,resources for mental development etc to enable child's healthy growth then you dont need to spank your child.If you have integrity and understand your child then ur child will obey your Strict "NO" .This kind of parenting reinforces self confidence in a child .Example in a store a UK toddler(2 yrs) drops a milk can spilling milk .His mother immediately says( dont worry son its only an accident) and asks for a mop to clean from the shop keeper .Also boldy apologising to the shop keeper for the incovenience caused and a quick chit chat that kids are like that .The child sees this healthy environment of acceptance for any mistakes it makes and will follow the do's and donts of his parent .This is the true parenting culture of UK which is an orderly society .Same scenario happened last month for an indian family when a child (2 or 2.5 yrs) picked up toffee jar and dropped spilling the chocolates .Immediately his mother screamed at him and spanked him on his back . Further she didnt properly pick all the toffee spilt and put it in the jar . However shop assistant did the job for her. I conclude that parenting is a skill and if you put enough care then you dont need to spank ur child to enforce the Donts .
I am of the firm opinion that deciding to become a parent means that you decide to shoulder responsibilites of a parent. Mostly the parents hurt the kids, becuase of their own frustration and not because of the desire to improve the child.
Spanking or hurting a child should be a serious offence in the eyes of the law so that we can create better and more responsible future citizens.
I am of the firm opinion that deciding to become a parent means that you decide to shoulder responsibilites of a parent. Mostly the parents hurt the kids, becuase of their own frustration and not because of the desire to improve the child.
Spanking or hurting a child should be a serious offence in the eyes of the law so that we can create better and more responsible future citizens.
Hi, I am a doctor and find this argument amusing. I have come across many young adults nowadays in my practice who are maladjusted because of over indulgence by their parents. Discipline is a must and some children only need to be told to follow it. Others require more harsh measures. It may seem cruel, but we live in a harsh world and on growing up, they will learn that values taught while young hold them in good stead in their adulthood. Otherwise we will create a generation just like the Americans, just wanting instant gratification of desires and no sense of family and community spirit.
Child beaters don't worry. Supporters of law against it don't go ga ga. We have laws banning smoking in public places, food adulteration, spurious drugs, rash driving etc. Nobody gets punishment. There are childern dying while crossing roads, dying by falling in to the manholes, dying by falling into the abandoned tubelwells, dying because of malnutrition, fire in school functions, falling of advertisement boards, even our multistory apartmetns are not safe for childern living there. Who gets punished for all this? Are there no laws for all these? When we are not bothered by death, can we be bothered by beating? I seriously doubt the effectiveness of the law even if made. It will take us another 200 yrs to understand and act on this.
This shows that we moved far away from Indian culture of what ever parents think is of child's good and what ever childs thinks is of parents good.
We are blindly aping westerners in every aspect of life style. How wonderfull in the past that parents taking care of child and child taking care of parents when it grows up. taking care means it is not only financial aspect but it is also emotional which is very important. FAmily life is very importatnt for mental health of individuals. We should not ape western society in these issues.
Sad that in this nation which gave most of the world its knowledge, parents cannot explain things to their children in the right spirit. . Lack of proper communication (other than orders, admonitions and punishments, including violent punishments) leads to the child not having anyone to turn to. Being lonely, he becomes independent too fast and stops caring about the world. The child may also turn criminal because the only language he has learnt is that of force and violence. . The cases are not isolated. This should have been tackled many decades ago but it was lost in the sand of myriads of other issues deemed more important. . Most parents bring a child to life but forget to give a life to the child. Basically, these parents do not care about their children. They become parents out of their own ego of becoming a parent. They don't even understand what childhood means. Basically, they are children who have parented children.
Well I was waiting for this to happen.... Now I better be careful..... and I think one should never hit his/her own child .... come what may..... maybe I am not a good father...
Parents have every right to beat their children if they seems to be naughty. Now days most of the childrens are very smart. They speak in a manner in which it reflects like elders.
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by DEBARATI DASGUPTA on Jun 25, 2007 03:08 PM Permalink
You say so because the Indian perception is that children are the personal property of their parents. In our country most people become parents without the mental, emotional and financial preparation for bringing up a child.Children are brought up as an investment to financially secure the future of their parents. Physical and mental torture of children is rampant in every household. So many children run away from home every year to escape beatings and poverty. So many children commit suicide every year because they could not cope with their studies.Parents try to impose their own ambitions on the children. Childrens' achievements are supposed to increase your social status.Instead of trying to understand the child, parents load him with their unrealistic expectations. The government should pass stringent laws forbidding parents to physically and mentally abuse children Besides government also should make it mandatory for each married couple to undergo counselling related to parenting. As regards your observtion that most of the children are very smart and talk like elders, all depends on the environment they are being brought up in and we elders are the ones who create that environment for them.Children do as they learn from their parents. Stop thinking of kids as your property. They are human beings . They did not ask you to bring them into this world. You are the one who responsible for their birth. Do not overload them with your own failed ambitions. Be an example to them
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by Kaushik Das on Jun 25, 2007 02:58 PM Permalink
And who gave them that right, sir??? . Then, we can also take your missionaries by violence when they act naughty. Will you like that?
