GOD gave us no choice in any of the relatioships we have in this world. We can't choose our father or mother or sister or any other relative other than wife. That is the only relative whom we are allowed to choose. Why cant we be allowed to do that in any way we want. Not that I am saying that we should ignore the society. As someone said it is better than loveless married life.
To judge someone's opinion is other's duty or right..however it must be appreciated and respected that people living in a particular country have to abide by the laws and social system on which the very basis of constitution was laid. To get your country recognised by simply adopting the cultures of some other country does not mean that we are a progressed nation...in past 60 yrs or so we haven't achieved much as compared to Germany, Japan, Italy, Thailanf, Singapore, Malaysia and many more countries, these countries didn't adopt cultures of other countries..neither they start beliving in Indian Values. Take an example of Middle East which country allows live-in relations there but would you not consider them developed.we will keep fighting this infantile war or will venting our spleens but will never understand the very crux of India. People who supports Live-in relations imagine wut if your parents or ur sister stays in such relation and one day comes back, do u think anyone wud like to marry her or wud u have respected ur parents the way u respect them now. Imagine ur friend has already spent nights with a stranger and didn't like him...will u marry her. Or imagine wut if someone after staybing for long in such relation ends it on a bitter note than will he/she gets engaged in another such relation will another person and if so than this is a never ending saga.
I'm not here to comment but I didn't like especially SAMPATH's comments abt Indian culture...i don't know but
I personally adhere to the doctrine that mutual understanding and trust always spark off relationship whether a marriage or live in. If a girl and a boy are incestuous and marry later. It means they are loyal and courteous and bind in a relationship with mutul consent. if jilted due to personal or other and decides to follow there own path with different companion.They have understood that their relationship will not work for longer period of time and voluntarily set apart.Relationships are always circumstantial and happens by chance.iN our society there are two ilk of group of people, who always impugn on each other's point of views, one who follows and other who abhor it. If you ask married guy he will say no to live in and vice versa.Cultural, economical,enviromental and informative transitions have caused live in relationships.Live in relationship is mushrooming in Metros where people from other cities come for education,job or livelyhood and parental control almost become nix there,so they adopt which is easily available due to insecurity or emotional front.So the choice are theirs and lives are theirs.SO only couple knows they follow the life of debauch or life of moraly correct
I believe Live in relationship is ok if both the ppl are committed to continue it forever i.e culminatting into marriage, but how many of us in this relationshp can actually commit to this.Before giving ur views you need to ask this questions to ur self and then say nething abt our long lived culture.
Ok it will be fine foer the couple just to live in and have a happy life, what will be the future of any children within that relationship. Where do they stand if the couple decided to separate.Love is a novelty that wears out in few months,don't try to be westerns here no body cares where on comes form or is going but in our society we value our family relationship and the family values. No thanks this phenomena is not for me.
it is disheartening that this society has degenerated to such a level of discussing such topics. single parent children, whether encouragable is such other similar issue. it indicates disintegration of family system and values. In a family system, it is family it takes care of young and old age. love or no love family is family and we it is hall mark of socially developed society. dis integration of family system is degeneration of socity. we are apeing such socities which are developing socially and not developed.
There is a differnce between the lust and the love. Lust demands live in relationship and love request only company.
We are not animals, we are human beings and we should understand this. Be human, love humanity. Be indian and ask others to follow your culture rather then following westen culture. Today we say livein is o.k, after 5 years we may say lesbo and gays are o.k, after 10 years we may say incest relationship is o.k.
In the comments of most of the people, I dont find spiritual dimensions to the marriage. In Hindu system, the couple starts their spiritual journey with their marriage. Sex is for begetting children and not beyond that. There are many couples in India, who moderate thier desires with spiritual practices. In the marriage ritual, the groom is asked to promise Naati Charami ( I will not cross my limits) three times in front of the gathering. If he or she breaks the vow, it is their down fall. However community is there to help them. In the present system, where people are highly qualified, ambitious, think individualistically, cant tolerate children and in-laws will find Live in relationships attractive. Anyway interpersonal relationships are not that easy for a few people.
RE:Live in relationships- comments
by Prashant Shah on Jul 27, 2007 04:39 PM Permalink
interpersonal relationships are not that easy for a few people, infact many ppl.
It is life. It is not a dress, you cannot have a trial till you get one suitable. No two persons are 100% compatible. Error and trial basis will not work out. Once erred it is done forever. No look back. http://blogunderthesun.blogspot.com/2007/06/followup-on-living-together-justified.html
RE:Living together justified
by Anoop Wilson on Jul 21, 2008 05:44 PM Permalink
Agreed sindhu , please understand that in a mature or a responsible live in relationshiop the peartners rarely corss the point of no retun unless they are satisfied with thier emotional compatibility.
Ever hard of the saying
"Failure is the stepping stone to success". but tht doesnt mean that you shoudl start on a relation with a the goal to fail....does it ?
RE:sss
by Sheetal Kaur on Jul 27, 2007 04:54 PM Permalink
He just wants a casual relationship there is no love in it, just stop and think what is love will it last for ever will just love feed cloth and put a roof on your head, as soon as the reality bites in all love jumps out of the windo. there is no such thing as love.
