Neither marriage nor live-in relationships guarantee complete happiness in all aspects. Both are a gamble. In case of a failed marriage, perhaps one has the support of the family whereas in the case of a failed live-in relationship, one may have to face it all alone in his/her privacy. AS live-in relationships are usually entered into by the bolder lot, they may not mind a failed relationship and may be in a better position to bounce back to life faster. Living with any person, even own blood relations, needs compromises and adjustments to be made by all the people concerned. So it is equally applicable in a marriage and a live-in relationship. The major difference is that in a marriage it is not very easy to leave your spouse in case of differences as families and legal complications are involved whereas in case of live-in relationships, such obstacles are absent, thereby making parting relatively simpler physically. Emotional wounds remain in broken marriages as well as broken live-in relationships.
At the end, it can only be said "To each his own".
Re: LIve in Relationships
by prasoon on Aug 20, 2009 01:37 PM Permalink
The only positive factor about a matured live-in-relationship before marriage is the evaluation of comaptibility...both mental and reciprocal...ultimately..in any long term partnership, this is what matters. Getting thrown together suddenly results in disparity of mental sync and niggles which sometimes become unsurmountable. Maturity is what actually makes the difference in acceptibility and sharing where egos become a major problem when both are intellectually obstinate.
before giving all these ideas please go and study how many of this kind of relations existed for longer time.Some people who shows off themselves as more advanced will tempt immature girls into such relations and leave them after the woman loses her charm and make them to live lonely.Girls please dont get into the traps of such people god bless.
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RE:Live In --formula by Vasant Rokade/Ashok Rokade..Dr
by AUVN MUDALIAR on Jul 30, 2007 02:10 PM Permalink
this is really very interesting and pathetic.Put a male in that girls place and see.nowadays males also sit and eat in wives money without earning.Recently a girl divorced her husband due to that reason.-VN.,MA.,B.L.,
I think it is foolish idea. One lion and one Tiger lived together for 15days then tiger become pregement delivered tiglion(simhuli in kannada) that will take place. be care full dont advise these nonsense idea. be an indian and give respect ladies. and be alone and dont live together. it is a foolishness.
RE:live in relationship
by manappattil sreevalsan on Jul 28, 2007 06:22 PM Permalink
What happens in case a tiger marries a lion and then gets pregnant??? there would still come a tiglion!!! Dont talk crap. A single rule cant be followed for the whole world else the world would lose its variety.
Our indian arranged marriage system dates back to thousand years.When the marriage was done when the brides and groom's were not adult.AS these couple grew and matured they grew with understanding and assimilating each other's needs.So both of them adapted according to the other person's needs.Because moulding and adaptation of personalities is possible in Child hood than when adult.But now marriages are done when both husband and wife are allready adult.Since both are adult both want have their ego and expectations and no one is ready to abandon his/her wants.No body wants to compormise and which leads to lack of love.Hence in such scenario it becomes important that the life partner should be exactly matching to ones needs and Live in Relationship gives exactly this opportunity to test each other.Some body has proclaimed that live in relationhip makes us more animal and less human. Then I would ask are we the people of today's time human. The answer is NO.Because we work like animals 18 hrs a day at call ceter's, Software companies,and other establishments to earn.AFter earning we inhumanly spend the same partying,drinking ,clubbing and other unwarranted attitudes.No one thinks of crores of poor people spending day's of life without food,clothing and shelter.Abject poverty is another name of India.No one today' has time for all these things.Charity and good will gestures are things of past.Hence we have ceased being human's since long time.So live in relationship is demand o
I wonder if people who advocate live in relationships for knowing the other person better , may consider no sex relationship till they know other person and want to marry.
RE:RE:live in relationships
by gfch fghfh on Jul 28, 2007 04:43 PM Permalink
yes if the couple wants to know each other better , they can surely opt for a platonic relationship rather then getting intimidate
Nothing goes wrong as long as one is a good human being.And changes are inevitable in the society. The difference we feel today is that if soemone stays in rural area live-in relationship will attract a heavy resistance from the society yet on the other hand nobody cares in Mumbai for the same reason.
So be happy (if/whenever possible) and run fast(if you can) otherwise living in peace (??)is the better idea.
RE:Live-in relationships
by arun shekar on Jul 27, 2007 06:52 PM Permalink
Yeah that is the case...most of the people in India (and guess elsewhere but certainly a bit less) are soo callous and opportunistic dirty minded that they make use of and play around with human emotions including relationship to entertain themselves and their needs that it has created an atmosphere of deception, selfishness
Marriage won't guarantee you commitment and happiness. It is only a stamp of approval by the overly zealous society for cohabiting. Of course marriage will guarantee you a bit of security but do you really stay in a relationship cuz you bind your partner by some law and punishment?? it is about choosing and living with the right person. And nobody is obliged in any way to live with people who are selfish or is incompatible. If you live in with someone cuz you wanna try out sexual independence and be independent in general overlooking the nature of the person you are living with and ignoring the emotional and physical aspect of it, then it is not the living in which is to be blamed, it is your decision to be blamed. Don't mix up sex and living-in relationship. Sex is a BIOLOGICAL URGE which is bound to happen for most anyways.
RE:It's all about personal choice and the choice you make
by arun shekar on Jul 27, 2007 06:39 PM Permalink
And yeah one more thing, we all do mistakes, it can be done in a relationship too...but it doesn't mean we can't learn and get better. Don't compromise on early signs of negatives you see in your partner(mostly selfishness and using u to satisfy their needs only)...it is bound to reflect on you someday on you later in life.
