With due respects to those who think this to be perfectly normal. Equally surprised by what our children do, we plan the path ahead for them only to feel slighted when they tell us their decisions. Moral or immoral is subjective, but this is still not permissible for the simple reason that we human beings are emotional, every live in that fails leaves an emotional scar only to resurface as expectation setting in the next relationship. A few rounds will start making this a business relationship and not a mingling of two minds anymore. A marriage however needs two minds, so other things become irrelevant. A young kid will also react to such scars differently, however supportive, the scar will be borne by the kid herself/himself.
The persons who are in support of this culture, I want to ask them if they feel the same if your sister, daughter are part and parcel of this culture. Mind you, Indian Society culture is the strongest culture in this world and that is whey we are safest than any other country
RE:What about if the case in your family
by b a on Jul 17, 2007 02:26 PM Permalink
yes if my sister or daughter wanted to live in ; i would respect their decisions as an adults decision; whether i like it or not; i have no right to impose my decisions on anyone; secondly indian culture has been the strongest because it was never rigid; it has always been flexible; no wonder so many cultures have been absorbed by it and a wonderful amalgamation has resulted.
RE:RE:What about if the case in your family
by SUDHIRKUMAR NANABALA on Jul 17, 2007 02:43 PM Permalink
What if your sister/daughter could get the right partner even after N number of 'Live-in''s? Do you think it would still be a rosy future and could just rewind everything?
RE:What about if the case in your family
by anil palekar on Jul 17, 2007 02:40 PM Permalink
AFTER ALL THIS IS A MATTER OF LIKE & DISLIKE. SO DEBATING ON SUCH TOPIC DOESNT GET SOMETHING.. KUNKI IS DEBATE KI SUBAH NAHI
RE:What about if the case in your family
by Rahul on Jul 17, 2007 02:57 PM Permalink
India is one of the fastest growing country in the world. Till a few years back, all we had was our culture and values.. Come on mate.. There is more to it. If you really want to know about the indian culture, do some research on indian history before the british invaded india.
RE:What about if the case in your family
by Rakesh on Jul 17, 2007 02:15 PM Permalink
IF you can accept love-marriage why not live-in-relatonship? It is one and the same.
Whether you live in before marriage and get married. or you get married without live-in, what is needed in a marriage is understanding between the couple, give and take and loving each other forever. if you have this you can marry without live-in your marriage is successful. if you do not have these even you get married after live-in also will be a failure.
We are humans... Civilised n socialised... these types of relationships harm the society. They are highly immoral n illicit,Its d ways to corrupt the society's morals. These interrupts the natures laws too.
RE:Its just like animals!!!!
by kanchan gupta on Jul 17, 2007 02:16 PM Permalink
can u tell me what is nature's law acording to you and how is our society is spoiled with this?
RE:RE:Its just like animals!!!!
by Yatin V Thakkar on Jul 17, 2007 02:26 PM Permalink
Hi Kanchan, If you are hindu.... please understand the word hindu and read the rest of the answer.. We have a very rich culture of Vedas and Upnishadas. They have given a lot of rules to lead a happy life. People who have broken the rules have suffered a lot in life. I cant write stories and stories here but if you want I can explain you over email some time. regards
RE:Its just like animals!!!!
by h o on Jul 17, 2007 05:15 PM Permalink
Who the hell told you caste system is all bad things. A 60 decades back people thought genetics played only 20% role in ones behavior. Some decades after its role became 40% and the it became 60%. I am not in favour of practices like untouchability but then they never were part of our vedas either. Darwins' evolution theory says categorization forms the basis of evolution of species and it forms the basis of every modern belief and science. So what makes you think caste system is such a redundant concept. You are bunch of idiots who think all five fingers are alike. Caste system started with a well defined concept that a specialization exists everywhere in nature and society. Some of the fools started abusing it and remaining fools like you gave bad name to caste system and then by reductionist theories painted the entire culture, Hinduism as bad.
RE:Its just like animals!!!!
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 06:20 PM Permalink
Some fools abused it and todays fools still follow it. You need to be born a dalit in an Indian village to understand the true colors of the caste system. If you truely follow Darwin then you would never support the caste system in the present form.
RE:RE:Its just like animals!!!!
by raju kumar on Jul 17, 2007 05:39 PM Permalink
the present caste system which we r following in not a correct form at all, caste resembles ones occupation. how can u say just taking birth in a brahmin family u will become a bramin. categorization should be on the basis of the persons occupation and not on its family background. then if a person from brahmin family working in bata company he should be called as chamar.
Why livein relationship? When a person is a social creature. What is the purpsoe of live-in relationship? This types of evil is inreasing day by day in big cities like Mumbai and Delhi, which is not good for the society as well as for the country like India. This is increasing in the reaches.
RE:It is a kind of prostiuion with one person and social evil
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 02:49 PM Permalink
Who are to judge what is good or not? If two persons are happy in a live in then fine. After all what is marriage? It is a live in with a legal certificate. Doen't matter as long as there is mutually respect among partners.
RE:It is a kind of prostiuion with one person and social evil
by h o on Jul 17, 2007 05:18 PM Permalink
Sampath mohapatra.. Science is not about reinventing the wheel every time. It does not say that proof by first principle is the only way to accept a proof. You psuedo scientific guys do in any efforts to understand the system and reasoning and jump to conclusions based on half baked knowledge about science.
RE:its entirel personal look out
by on Jul 17, 2007 02:06 PM Permalink
Who has given the rights to the governament to permit or not to pemit... When these laws r set by the Nature, The Lord o all(ALLAH).The governament is just to govern, not to make the laws...
What is there in the Live-in relationship that that is not there in the marriage institution? Only convenience, non-commitment and of course, lust!.....It is like some-nights-stand!!
After having gone thru' all sorts of experiences in my life, I feel that it shd neither be permitted nor practiced. It is detrimental to the overall interests of not only the individuals involved but also our Society as well the offsprings(if any). Living-in relationship is just a result of our impatience to have physical pleasures & satisfy our Lust without caring for our long-run interests. Over the years the individuals develop guilt feeling, especially in Indian scenario as we have not been brought-up in western culture. Only a Desciplined & Moral life can give us a long-lasting happiness. Thanks.
RE:Are you open to live-in relationships?
by ashish puri on Jul 17, 2007 03:35 PM Permalink
I am totally agree with this opinion. Marriage is not a product, like first we will have the demo of a partnet, and after that we will decide, whether we want do go with that relationship or not-Thanks
