its nothing but a dog-culture. every individual feel it is right until it enters his family. does any brother accept's his sister's involvement in a live-in relationship. definately not. so it also depends on individuality. but definately it is not our culture and we me avoid it. it is not good for society and future. actually indians are respected in foreign countries for their culture and commitment and they are trying to follow our culture. i didn't understand why some of the indians are running behind the foreign culture in the name of modernization etc.
RE:live-in relationships
by Rahul on Jul 17, 2007 03:18 PM Permalink
Dasta girl, wut u need to do is do some traveling.. Probably to some western country. And then review wut u wrote here.. Some of us r like the frog in the deep well.. We dont accept the truth..
We are the oldest civilization on Earth, the culture of our country certainly does not permit this at all.The other word for premarital SEX is Live in relationship,it is good adapt things from others. I am sure we would like to adapt only the good and leave the bad, we should feel proud that even today when we call it the 21st century, we believe in the system called MARRIAGE.Live in relationship is certainly not for us, it is for the people of the west.
No Indian parents in the right mind would allow their children to have this type of relationship, but HELLO!! welcome to the real world. It's being done every where like it or not. Indian's are very traditional when it comes to life style; the rest, they want to compete with the world. what an irony. as for me, I lean towards live in relationship.
No Indian parents in the right mind would allow their children to have this type of relationship, but HELLO!! welcome to the real world. It's being done every where like it or not. Indian's are very traditional when it comes to life style; the rest, they want to compete with the world. what an irony. as for me, I lean towards live in relationship.
First of all we have to be honest to ourselves.. Why do u need a live in relationship??? Is it just for fun and for ure own convinience??? Or is it a trial, before u commit to live with that person for rest of ure life?? As PAL said for any relation to work, you need to have a good undersanding, treat your partner the same way as you treat yourself. I am an Indian who has been living in London. So, I have seen the life in the east as well as the west. Generally men see themselves superior to women. Luckily its not all men in India (I would say around 75%. No offence to the rest of 25%). Once you get married to that women, they treat their partners like pet. After the first few weeks of romance or lust or wutever u say, then its an adjustment between the both parties rest of their life. By then they have kids, and then comes middle age crisis, and we all know wut happens. So, live in relationships can be a reality check. By living in with someone, u could ask the questions like is this person, I would like to wake up with rest of my life, to grow old with, etc, etc. Once u r married then getting out of it is more harder. I dont completely agree with the argument abt living together could be illicit and immoral. It could be illicit and immoral if u r doing it just out of lust and nothing else. Living in relationships can work out really well if u treat this as ure next step to a good relationship, before commiting to each other.
I would like to ask one and all, who are we to impose our likes on others? Believe me, I do not see anything wrong in this arrangement as long as both parties agree to it. I too have been in such realtionships in the past and have seen nothing wrong in it. May be they are not married, but you could still have the comfort feeling that there is somebody to care for you and share your joys and sorrows with. In many a case, these arrangements have culminated in marraige - happy successful ones at that. In spite of all our so called moral police shouting their throats hoarse, I would still support this arrangement and honestly, if somebody in my family gets into such a relationship, I would support it whole heartedly. My experience in such a relationship has been a pleasent one - my partner and I supported one anther whenever required. As a matter of fact, a lot of married couples in our building were jealous about the way we lived - 6 long years.
RE:live in
by vinay gouri on Jul 17, 2007 02:34 PM Permalink
Rajesh, your case is interesting, but can you tell the story fully? How is it now? Are you married to the same person or how is it? Complete the story please..
RE:live in
by Anil Gulati on Jul 17, 2007 03:00 PM Permalink
Live in relationship can be said to be OK if the couple firmly decides never ever to have children till they get married. If this much understanding can be achieved then and then only the couple should think of going ahead with this kind of so called live in relationship. Greatest tragedy of this type of relationship is the children and should never happen. As a human being one should always understand that ther is no relationship without commitment, the spirit of adjustment and the pleasure of living for others.
RE:RE:RE:live in
by reidf dfd on Jul 17, 2007 03:06 PM Permalink
If live in leads to marriage thats fine..We are talking abt cases where it does not..
there are other relations to care about you and share the joys..mother, father, brother,, aunt, uncle,sister, inlaws, friends..etc, pl open ur eyes ...
no marriage works automatically, ppl have to make it work.. there is nothin like ideal couple, made for eachother...Pl ask ur mom/dad
u dont need six long years to understand someone...
Livin is, free sex, many nights stand...
for all who support this, my final question if a gal comes to u and says i have had 3 livin relations nothing works and she wants to marry u..will u accept her? may be for arguement sake u may say yes...but it doesnt happen in real life..
I agree it happens ..but there is no need for media to hightlight...its individuals choice!
RE:live in
by manu on Jul 17, 2007 02:38 PM Permalink
What if your mother os sis goes and have some kind of live in relation now,would you support this then also?
frankly the topic of live in relations falls in the realm of private lives of people and everyone is entitled to live his/her life as per one's own wishes and desires' . why do we want to mix up personal and social life? why do we want to act as judges and decide what is wrong and what is right for other people's private lives. every one of us is responsible and accountable for our personal decisions. so if a couple wants to live in and is not encroaching upon anyones rights then they should be left alone. who will decide what is right and what is wrong? this is a very delicate arena where we will have to tread with care.
