the topic of singlehood has somehow become closer to my heart as i am moving towards my twenty seven. Call it social conditioning, call it peer pressure or maybe my own heartfelt wish - I do want to find my special someone, my 'soulmate'. The question is that do we simply want to double up for we can not stand being 'seen' as single, as 'lonely', as 'vulnerable', 'anchorless' or we are putting a restraint on ourselves till we find what we are searching for and commit ourselves to him / her. We 'choose' to spend set anchor at a shore together, unregretful of shores that we could have gone to or the ones we missed. It takes courage, it takes determination and yes, a degree of self worth and confidence to be able to do that. But, yes we possess it and thats why we are single. I do hope I will find my 'soulmate' soon enough but even if not, i am ready to wait for him for i know its worth it. The relationship is worth it and i am worth the relationship.
Whether you are single or otherwise,what is important is to maintain active good relationship and keeping family and friends happy with regular communication.Avoid any bias.Build relationship .What is right to you may be wrong to another.No need to debate or prove who is what.Your success in relationships depends on ones skill and competence.
To stay single or have a partner is a personal choice. Invaribily it is based on the circumstances at that point of time that the indivadual faces make him pick this choice. It is true that the percentage of people who pick this chocie is very low. I feel that there is nothing to feel great or feel sorry for this. I was married , but my wife expired 5 years back. When she expired our son was just touching 2 and did not even start talking. After that I decided to stay single, as I felt and still feel that true love happens only once. I am both father and mother to my son. He never felt any deficency. I am also a decentely successfull professional.
RE:Being Single
by meetu bhatia on Feb 12, 2007 10:31 AM Permalink
Hello Prem I was reading your opinion on being single.It's true that no one chooses this lifestyle by choice.This is more circumstantial than by choice. It was quite heart rendering to know about ur wife & ur assuming the role of both father n mother to ur little one. And the fact that true love happens only once is also a fact.But I'd just like to add one statement to ur fact . Both mother father r an intergal part to the child's upbringing.So please for the the sake of the litle one if u find someone to can really give all her maternal instinct to ur son don't close the door to that option. Believe me ur son will thank u one day for giving him a complete world & ur life will be truly successful not only as a professional but also as a father & husband. I'm sorry if I've intruded upon our privacy. But after reading ur opinion I felt so i wrote it to you. Meetu Bhatia(bhatiameetu@rediffmail.com)
RE:RE:Being Single
by vikram kapoor on Feb 23, 2007 06:18 PM Permalink
Dear Meetu, i really felt low after reading prem's article but after reading ur's i must confess, u r a very positive women. as far as i'm concirned, i have being in one relatonship for 6 years and one fine day she told me that she's not interested in me. and it took me an year to get out of it. and for doing so, i left my place and even changed my country. i firmly believe that staying alone is mostly circumstancial but one should never loose hope and try to be in a company. for any coments kindly get in touch with m,e at vikram_parivartan@rediffmail.com
I have been single for 8 years after ending a 8 year marraige. Because of the rules laid down by society and problems caused by so called the caretakers of society, I left India and never looked back...being single is a choice a person makes and noone has a right to judge that. Being single does nnot mean you are not loved or you are lonley. Chances are if you are lonely as single, you would be lonely in a relationship...people need to respect others life choices
RE:Escapism
by arun p on Feb 12, 2007 03:16 AM Permalink
don%u2019t generalize mate, speak for urself, maybe its ur needs or insecurity that makes u feel so%u2026
If u born in India, it is our culture to marry, if u think in this way"IF YOUR DAD&MOM IS NOT MARRIED EACH OTHER THEN WHERE IS YOU",if u r in this beautiful earth it is your duty to marry. It is our culture. Without marriage giving birth, living alone it is western culture. Be indian, be culture. Great India.
RE:A Unwanted question
by Yvonne Solomon on Feb 12, 2007 12:10 PM Permalink
of all the reasons to get married your's is the most silliest....what bullshit is culture if it kills your personal choice,Indian cultur is more than just reproducing and procreating,we have given a lot to this world than what your limited mind can conceive and imagine...
RE:A Unwanted question
by Amit Tandon on Feb 12, 2007 12:02 PM Permalink
Ha ha ha ha.. ho ho ho.. ha ha ha.... Stop it man! This laughter is killing me :)
Hi, I am a single since I was born & feel that every one ENVY singles,MEN-because they are always scared of there wives(NAGGING WIVES IF MAY SAY)they get 50 calls per hour from there spouse to know what are they doing,who are they with & BLAH BLAH BLAH. WIVES-because they compare their husbands with other single men and find their husbands boring,not loving them enough(OR NOT SAYING OFTEN)or not wearing proper clothes or their other sic! habits like ????? & ?????. In short being SINGLE is WOW because you can get down from bed from EITHER SIDE too.
SO WELCOME TO SINGLES CLUB. JOIN NOW & HAVE FUN 24X7X365 MEMBERSHIP OPEN TO LIMITED LIKEMINDED PEOPLE.
RE:SINGLETON
by Manvender Rautela on Feb 15, 2007 05:28 PM Permalink
look wat u r talking about here is marriage..ok! marriage may be a liability but a relationship is never a liability..I can always walk out of a relationship if I find my gal frustrating..can't I?..& ok! said u love 2 b single..I guess you r kidding yourself more than you are kidding us..Everybody,literally evry soul(howevr dumb he mayb 2 get into a realtionship) wants to get into one.. So would I b wrong if I say "Grapes are sour" ?..I wouldn't.. Cheers!!
when u r single u r in search of a partner and when u will have a partner , u think that better to be single than partner's disturbance. so everything depends upon situation, soo do with the time and need.
Single man/woman, I have found one thing in common, your life becomes everyone else's business, the more so if you are a woman. I am single in my late twenties, going good in my career and definitely plan to get married sometime. But what bugs me is when unknown people, ask me why i am not married(supposedly even after being good looking)- what the hell I feeel like asking, how could u get married after beinf so rude/dumb?? but life is great being alone, as I am my own master, and am fully resposnsible for my actions. SO if anyone is out thr thinking of singlehood being lonely, dont even think so, cos you would find urself really busy, with urself/life and some friends:)
RE:singlehood:)
by krishh on Jun 15, 2007 11:25 AM Permalink
dear suchismita, i have read ur views, it's ok to say that u r ur own master but u hvae ur duties to society in which u live. pay ur's & no body will bother you.
