if i could look at it across a sweep of a hand, i could say that it is the beliefs one grow up with, it is the kind of values that one hold on to as we grow, it is the decisions one takes depending on past experiences (ours or theirs, which make us react to such topics. lets sit apart from all these and give the subject a glance. what are we looking in a relationship? a kind of companionship, a kind of committment to give and then get, a kind of childish excitement in keeping the movement as unexpected as ever. well if that is it then sex is only one part of the whole thing. that would definitely be my stand.
if and ony if, a big if defnitely, one can keep away the emotional aspect of relationship, then go ahead - sex is just a tool for a moment's joy. live with the sweetness of those moment's memories. how long? you decide? worth the effort? time will tell you.
Its encouraging to know that Indians still exist in their cultural form. And its ridiculiously stupid to call humans animals (in the technical terms though we are). Animals dont live in societies. Animals do not create civilizations. Animals do not need clothes. Maybe you can ask your friend, if she considers herself a animal, to drop her clothes and take a walk in the street. Can she do that? After all humans are also animals and animals dont wear clothes, nor do they have the element or understanding of shame, which is a "human" emotion?
I am 29yrs old and single. Since the last 22yrs I am following the changes in our society above all in our country. Many of these changes have encouraged me towards happiness. On the other hand, many of them is giving me pain when I see them. One of this painful change, which I am feeling in our society, is the immence interest in PRE-MERITAL SEX amongst the young generation. Most of them are belonging to an well educated, well cultured family. They also have a strong financial background. Every thing, which need a person for well survive, they have. But, they don't have self control, which they need the most and only due to the lack of this power they are throwing themselves to the dark of the hell. Which is also creating the tension in their future mainly in their married life and atlast it effects on our trust, devotion and relation.
This is my personal openion as I believe that everything should have a limitation and when it exceeds its bar, destrection must be there may be in our mental or physical.
So, in this situation I never encourage PRE-MERITAL SEX to Stop the Destruction of Our Beautiful WORLD.
Its amazing that in this fast moving generation there are people like you and others who have supported your thought. I am in total support with your thoughts and share the same feeling. The statement about trust and commitment that marriage provides, really shows your clean and high thinking. Beleive me I completely support the same thought and once again hats off to you. Regards, Jai
Sex, inspite of all its pleasures and excitement, does give you a sense of guilt if you have it with someone You are not in love with. Moreover, Virginity is something that You should not loose to someone whom perhaps you wont even see a few days later, because, It is a memory that goes until your death bed and you do not want to keep a stranger in your memory! One Should wait for that "Someone Special" as it will Strengthen your relationship, give a sense of faithfulness and lifelong trust. I believe you are Right in waiting for your Mr. Right and Wish you find him SOON!
Humans are 'social' animals. Being 'social' is to have a life style that will prevent 'abuse', 'misuse', 'denial'. Involving with in a relationship and celbrating the passions are of great value and will prevent a lot of chaos in the society at large. And it all starts with you.
Dear o dear, i being a male do agree with you that you should not have sex before marriage or one noght satnds but when i am sexually aroused these things just seem to fade away from my mind and the sex animal takes over. when the feeling is gone back to where i was ...no sex before marriage (sexually aroused does not mean i have sex with anyone)
