Well I always thought that I am quite conservative and old fashioned in my thought process and ust like you time and again I have been told by some of the friends that there "is nothing wrong in it". Not that I am a saint but for me dealing with that post guilt is more difficult then to have that moment of fun... Though I agree that when the beast of lust takes over your thinkink capacity then at that moment you really do not need intimate emotions but the reality creeps in preety quick (at least for me). To be honest I am always in this dilemma "to cross the line or not". By the I have a Nike t-shirt that says "Just Did It"
I will not say pre or post marriage sex is important for anybodies life. It is a desire, every individual has their own capacity to control just like feeling of hungry.
If anybody (male/female), who not satified with their present sexual life, They are searching out for it.Finally I will say this hurts when anyone partner come to know about the illicit relation.
After marriage any parter they will not disclose their past sexual relation, you want to know the reason becasue still our society or us not accept.
Now our society is going thru a very torbulent phase. More and more people justifies pre-marital/extra-marital sex. The very definition of MORAL, TRUTHFULNESS, HONESTY are being diluted more inteligently by high society. The persons in this society may be successful in one aspect of life but they lack conviction and are weakminded when it comes to VALUES, ETHICS AND CULTURE.And unfortunately the new generation searches their IDOL or HERO in these fake n weak personalities. As they follow these people to get success, they also approve the darker side of their HERO's personality. They even argue how these people are right, though they are taught in their home, school that these are the forbidden act.
Also in argument in favour of immorality (that they consider reasonable) they load it with facts and figures. They think the more facts and figure one gives, then one is MORE right. They think that information is knowledge. But actually information is only a part of knowledge. This way the belief system poor and simple man get defeated by these arguments and slowly these forbidden idea captures his innocent mind. Then he becomes a strong campaigner.
Dear i am totally in agreement with you, sex is not a food like something which you can eat when ur hungry....no no not at all but its the hunger of your soul to make you realise that some one loves you the way you need to be.You feel honourd when there is a committement for the relationship and dedication which offcourse comes in the package of marriage. Being social animal never means behaving like just animals which has no prefix before as "social" (sex with anyone, anytime & anyway). Those who lives the sex life like a biological process can never end with their life with somebody trustworthy around or one with whom they lived a bond of love. So dont get hurried for this phenomena of life and give time to Your mr. Right to find you out.
Nice to go through your experienced notes.What more should I opine? Rather I will tell you a betrothed couple should have sex and I believe by this process of physical contact they can develop better emotional understanding. Nothing new in sex and all animals prefer to have sex for momentary pleasure which updates their psychological, physiological and emotional stress.Pl.suggest if am wrong.
