I am a 26 yr old unmarried girl. I have a steady boyfriend for the last 5 years. I think it is one's mental as well as physical choice which lead them to sex. I have had physical relationship with my bf on several occasion, but I knew what was I doing. my marriage was fixed to my bf 2 years ago, but till today, because of financial and other personal problems, we have not got married. But we both love each other. I knew that he is the person whom I will spend rest of my life. Therefore it was not a hard decision to give away. Also for 3 years, we didn't had anything, but after our marriage was decided, i cud not supress my feelings. I wanted to hold him and kiss him. But that day it went far and we cud not return. i agree with the author that sex is not an activity, but a necessary thing which must be done at the right time. People take sex as fun. But they should be matured enough. Everything has a proper time. my major concern about sex before marriage is that people indulge in more than one person sex and that can lead to various diseases like AIDS. but if the person knows what he/she is doing, then nobody can do anything.
People like the writer have made sex a taboo. I think the views presented are very hypocritic. Though there is one thing I would agree to - thats is its very personal. So dont try to justify your views to others or listen to others. Do what you think is right. At differnt point in life ones needs are different... and incidently theres always someone around with similar views.
sex no doubt should be a special encounter with the special one. but alas! many ,in fact, majoirty wish for a fleeting encounter, a short term relationship without commitments. sex should be something special you give to your spouse, something solely for the two souls. having such an attitude dosnt mean you are old-fashoned, primitive or prude but it infact means u r smart, as u know who deserves it the best and u dont go distributing it like a prasad!! so cheers to all who think alike:)
Your biological clock is ticking. The call is yours do you want kids in marriage or outside marriage. You definitely read a lot and often get confused.
Keep it simple. To indulge before marriage or outside marriage the decisions is yours. If you want to indulge after marriage then you better start looking for the guy. Or you just want ot indulge its all fine.
I just do not understand Sex is a feeling. And till not 30 not experiencing it either you are neglecting males or males are neglecting you. Both ways you are in the losing side.
Yes the humans have always distinguished themselves from the animals by changing quite a few biological features called as evolution. (Moving on two limbs
though built to move with four is just once such feature). So we do copulate face-to-face, looking into each other's eyes and all. Though some of the fairer sex prefer to keep their eyes closed for various reasons.
This brings us back to the discussion.
From a evolutionary outlook, the biological programming is definitely for the proliferation and sustanenance of the species. Consent is vital. Hence many people (supported by social customs) inculcate and follow the relationship before copulation format. Thus there is a good chance for passing of genes and their survival.
On the otherhand question of pleasure is a completely different orientation. Only when the above evolutionary trends are satisfied does the
sexual copulation for pure pleasure arise. Then f relationship before copulation (howsoever thin the relationship might be) does not remain a very strong point.
Security in the society of fairer sex, will bring changes to biological feelings and this again will be called evolution.
I totally agree with Sarah Ribak views and appreciate her values. All her views are so truem only needs one to believe in himself / herself of his / her virtues. The life is so meaningful and divine.
