I am known as short tempered person among those who know me closely.I didnt develop this myself but is given by the God. I can not help when I am angry. But, not like Zidane. it takes some times to make the situation so worst. I try to keep my cool but sometimes it happens.Zidane at his place as I think also couldnot digest those verbal abuse from the germon and did all that he should have not done.What is the situation that is the major thing. He was already tensed playing the world cup final and that too as a captain. Secondly one or two days back he would have got so many praise by friends, relatives and media. In that pleasant mood hearing something like that was not digestable and he attacked. Generally he is cool fellow but situation made all the differenecs.
if someone insults ur mother or sister u should always fight back otherwise it wud mean insult to u and to ur family.theses are the right places to show ur anger,and kick the ass of the guilty.
i am one of the many dealing with anger problems.i used to be easily provoked on a daily basis dealing with various people and quick to loose temper.on a long term basis too i was angry with a few people on the basis of real and percieved reasons.
i began to realise that this was making me not only unhappy but also unpopular.nobody likes to deal with a person who is angry and unpleasant. i also realised this anger was due to unreasonable expectations on my part.expecting people to be efficient all the time and quick to blame others were some of the other reasons for my predicament.
i joined a meditation course two weeks back and i already find it highly effective in controlling anger.during and after meditation you tend to reflect on some of your negative qualities and seek a way in getting rid of them.
i am now certain that daily meditaion is a highly effective method in dealing with this problem.
I suggest to all my friends that we shall show our emotions depending upon the place , time and people around . If we are having a conflict with a human being in a civilized fashion then we can show our emotions or anger but when we are in a jungle and facing a raging tiger it's not worth to show the anger or emotions or anything else for that matter . Besides self defence anything else would only harm ourselves . If you have power to counter the opposition then it's worth to try and prove your point . Now a days simple conflict in a society or roads turns violent and ends up in fatal consequences because the human being in us is turning into beasts . People tend to lose their composer in hurry . Here we shall try to control ourselves as much as possible to avoid any such conflicts where any mishap would cost us dearly . Regards
hi, my name is siji zacharia and i am business man frm kerala...my problm is keeping in control my anger...i just angry at the slightest provocation..and i cool down the next moment...but by that time i might hav hurt the person who had provocated me...i am tryng to control my anger but it doesnt work out...my business is havng some problm and whn it doesnt work out i get angry at everyone close to me, my dad, my mom, my brother etc....i hope you wud be able to help me control my anger... best regards, siji zach
I'm xtremely short tempered and over the years it went on increasing. But then it has affected my family life. so gave it a thought, who's benefitting with this kind of erratic behaviour. Now i'm more patient. think before saying anything to anybody, coz words r like arrows, once u shoot u cant bring it back.
When people don't live up to our expectations, then we are provoked to anger. Nothing wrong in getting angry, but this should not lead to sin. Nothing wrong in showing anger to the right person, at the right place, at the right time, for the right length of time and in the right way.
I think I get angry when people talk illogical things, when they are egoistic enough to ignore the correction - that is, when they want to carry on with their idiocity rather than learning the correct thing.
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by Rishi Chopra on Jul 18, 2006 09:03 AM Permalink
Mr Varun, You should get treated for what your thinking is, surely no one will tolerate any thing bad about mother or sister, but Zidane has more social responsibility than you or me.He should have play his game and after the end of the match , he could have revenged.
I think in some cases when others are provoking us with telling bad about the family we should surely react to that instantly like Zidane did on the final of the world cup 2006. I say so because in this age of fast and spontaneous life we take care of our family more than the world out there.We dont have to care what the world will think of us and step back from reacting when some body just said \" I have fucked or mom last night\" then that is not manliness and he is a burden to the whole world. Sincerely if that was me - Zidane just head butted him - i\'ll had him sent direct to hell. I really appreciate Zidane for the ast he took on that night to tell the world that he is still a man enough to react to this stupid world.
And i begging -Even though it\'s not needed - to the whole world not to critisise him for what he did and think what you will do if u were in that situation. Your\'s Faithfully Varun.
