We have 10 children. Children bring us happiness. We are raising children for our own happiness. Making my children happy makes me happy in turn. That is the main reason I make my children happy.
On the other hand I would never ever expect my children to help me at my old age. When I raise children I don't think about "Oh children should help parents at their old age".
I 'll stand on the earth as long as I can by myself. And then let it go.
That is living with pride and dignity.
I have seen many old people living like that.
They are the ones who get the most love from their children as a matter of fact.
RE:Self Reliance
by raghavan tiruvallur on Mar 10, 2007 05:39 PM Permalink
mr senthil, please take a print out of what you have written and keep it with you safely. you read this at your age of 70 at that time you will realise what your writing was
RE:RE:Self Reliance
by Senthil Kumar on Mar 10, 2007 07:37 PM Permalink
My parents brought me up as a self reliant man. Never ever to expect any help from an uncle or other relatives/family friends.
My parents in their late 70s now won't take a penny or any help from their children except love.
RE:RE:RE:Self Reliance
by vidyadhar ramachandra kulkarni on Mar 13, 2007 01:08 PM Permalink
dear Senthil Kumar, your point is valid.. i never expect my children to look at me when i am old.. that is living with pride,and diginity. and it is a lesson to all to keep some amount saved for themselves when they are young espically the ones who r working in private sector.. AS SOMEONE HAS SUGGESTED.. PLEASE DO TAKE A PRINT OUT OF WHAT U HAVE WRITTEN.. ATLEAST AT THE AGE OF 70 U WILL PROVE THAT U WERE RIGHT
Love cannot be equated for money...Self reliance in the form of money can be done but where will you by love and warm words..These grannies are in need of warm words and love not money?
RE:Self Reliance
by kalyan chatrathi on Mar 13, 2007 06:38 PM Permalink
senthil - are you implying that the children give 'most love' only if their parents support themselves? What responsibilites and duties does one have towards their parents? I feel it is acceptable to state that one dont want to expect 'help' from their kids but what does one feel towards his/her parents?
This is not a question of money, it never was. It was always about finding a tiny place for parents in one's heart and treating them with the same kindness and tenderness that they displayed when the kids were in the diapers.
RE:RE:Self Reliance
by Senthil Kumar on Mar 13, 2007 09:20 PM Permalink
Love can't be demanded .. Love is not like duty ..
If your desirability, your maturity, your inherent worth, can't move the other person, then all you have left is to indebt people to you. You are preying on their guilt.
