dear Ms Priy tendulkar, Your letter speaks of your innoscence about your religion and ancestors. worship of shiva in that form only means that Sex is not a disrespectfull thing.Do you disrespect your father.How are you born.It is not sin.(ask your mother) 5000 years back ramayan and mahabharat took place.So social situations were different.Practices develop out of social situations and then they become irrilavent.staying in present generation and say that is wrong is ignorance.For example:In arabs they were always fighting and killing one another so female population was more and so each men had to mary 4 women or more.they didnot have water so they tke bath only on friday,In case of droupati also te situation was similar.even now some tribes in burma,nepal practice such life styles.frequent insecurity is one reason why women in muslim commnity wear that burqua. Coming to Srirama Valmiki mentions that he sent his wife for the sake of law and order among the society.It is for peoples well being that he sent mothersita to forest. Before writing coments you should go through your literature. Just because you know how to type and operate a computer Dont put coments out of desperation. with regards krishna