The biggest problem that most Indians have is that they tend to go over the limits in aping the West. I live and work in The Netherlands. I see that the women here attach enormous importance to their families. Even for women who are working, they tend to stop after they have kids or switch to working part-time so that they can give enough time for their husband and kids. It is very easy to get carried away with sitcoms like 'Sex and the City' and believe that all women in the West fall into that bracket. In fact, I have seen 'modern' women here are much more committed in relationships than the so called 'modern' women back home in India. The Netherlands was voted as the country where children have the happiest chilhood among all Western nations and the reason cited was the large percentage of women who sacrifice their careers for their family. the so called 'career women' in India would never ever dream about doing this. They would also never accept working part-time as most mothers here prefer to do since that would mean that she is 'inferior' to her husband. After all it is a man's obligation to provide for his family but if a woman wants to work, she should only look at it as a contribution to her family's income from a second source. This is the law of nature. If the Indian 'career' women think that they want to defy it, they will also have to face the consequences of a disruptive and chaotic family lives.
RE:Over aping the West
by BHASKARAN GANESHAN on Aug 19, 2007 09:32 AM Permalink
The modern Indian women has been plaguing the Indian culture and Indian family life all of them belonging to the middle class and upper middle class. They have got used to frequent change in relationships and partners, all predominantly Hindus. So far Muslims are untouched by this immaturity and adultery in thinking but are not very off from the trend. Sania Mirza is the torch bearer to this. Very soon there could be massive change in their behavior too.
RE:Over aping the West
by asdf jkl on Aug 27, 2007 02:07 PM Permalink
Moosa Khan When did nature tell you that it natural for women to be at home and men to earn? This is all man made. You are so jealous of women empowrment. Why at any place only women are supposed to take care of the family and children and make sacrifice? Why children don't belong to the father? Why children carry father's surname? When you talk about responsibilities, its all on women but come Rights and its all fathers. Why are you people so Selfish? Why don't you think about women for once? Here the main cause of divorce is working hours and labour laws are to blame. You guys never miss a chance to blame women.A country where more than 50% of women are still illiterate,those literate hardly get to attend high school,mostly B.A. pass are all prepared to be house wives, those educate dand working leave their job for family and marriage.FYI all my colleaues in 40's had their wives working before marriage and now doing baby sitting. You are making fuss about educated and working women, a rarity. With your lovely thoughts about Indian women, be happy about those 60%illiterate women, those being married off with dowry, being burnt for dowry. Celebrate for the existence for young helpless widows dying of hunger in our villages, clap for baby girls killed even before their birth. If you are not satisfied with the heighest rate of crime against women in India, work towards promoting sexual harassment of women on public transports, rape, doemstic violence. Happy!!!!.
RE:Over aping the West
by MANMADA GURU on Aug 19, 2007 09:26 AM Permalink
Wonderful observation. Indian women do get carried away. To them earning is the means of all happiness and place it above family and kids. Absolultely shortsighted. The so called modern Indian women have more than one relationship at the same time. They think that is modernity. Rearing kids is too far off. They need material comforts and more and multiple sex . So for men who are on for look out frequent sex, instead of going to call girls are advised to join the High tech bandwagon.
