Endless pages can be penned. However some points come to mind easily.
Willingness to forgive the other partner is a point often overlooked. Holding Grudges for years destroys marriages.
How ever Bangalore marriages are an obvious result of GREED. One or both partners should be willing to give up the high paying job and settle for a low paying one but a job which leaves space for Human interaction.
Marriages based on GREED seldom last long.
However in a age where brains are trained into FOCUSING on money and money only any sensible advice will have few takers!
Another Extension of the same issue is love for FALSE PRESTIGE. Lot of couple buy things they cannot afford on loans and when it is pay up time quarrels are bound to take place.
Thirdly VALUE SYSTEMS are a commonly seen cause of divorce. What one spouse thinks of his/her right the other thinks of in an entirely different way. Part of the New Value System is the acceptance of divorce as a means of resolving disputes.
Who should serve the mother in law is part of the value system. Lot of IT folks dress up in western dress but when it comes to Family matters take a medieval view of family matters. Some are unrealistically futuristic!
Divorce should be considered only when things have gone to an irreparable state. However todays youngsters have "low frustration tolerance".
It pays to remember that "FLEXIBITY"=HAPPINESS "RIGIDITY"=DOOM.
I remember as a young successful doctor and having taken it for granted that I had made it, I found to my utter surprise that I had no demand in the marriage market!I had to swallow a lot of my pride before getting married having being reminded what a 'meherbani' it was!
We as human beings have a lot of soul searching to do.
But we shouldn't forget that we are all a little crooked inside. Divorce and suicide are just some symptoms of our disease called "crookedness."
RE:Divorce Rate
by simha chalam on Aug 09, 2007 07:44 AM Permalink
Wah Wah Dr saabh., that's exactly correct. Flexibility is Happiness & Rigidity brings Doom Tx for that mesg. It's a MUST to be practicd.
