All of your experiences definitely seem to have made it very difficult for you to think India is a favorable place for Muslims.
But my opinion is that India is far more diverse than the kind of experiences you have had. In almost every single Indian city and state...you find Hindus and Muslims living in same localities in absolute harmony with each other.
It is very easy to let some isolated incidents colour your thoughts. But these are the result of complete lawlessness and the large population problem that India is facing. For example, if a household is preparing fish and it causes the whole area to smell, it is the right of other households to complain that it is smelling. However, little can be done about that problem because population density is very high.
The household that is preparing food that smells a lot will be upset that other households are not tolerant. Those other households will be upset that the whole area is smelling.
Only mutual respect and tolerance can help maintain peace.
