Every day is womens day.I think it is not required to celebrate any day particularly.But having said that the purpose behind having a womens day should be that when you specify a day for women maybe a thought will be spared at least on that day for her welfare, her health, her state of mind and her happiness.In an urban middle and upper class households we see equality between the men and women in a family to a large extent but rural India is still a different cup of tea. Not only rural India even in a city in an uneducated labour class family women are abused and tortured. My maid tells me every second day that her husband hit her the night before. He is a plumber who works two days a week and then drinks away all his earnings for the rest of the week.She runs the household, feeds her kids, sends them to school hoping for a better future for her children and now she is also saving some money to buy a plot of land.When I tell her she is better off without a husband as it will mean a mouth less to feed she says he will die if i kick him out, no one will feed him. Her biggest problem is a 'WOMAN'her mother in law who supports her son in spite of all this. For me my maid is the unsung hero, CELEBRATE HER WOMANHOOD.
RE:womens day
by Swathie on Mar 07, 2008 10:44 AM Permalink
Dear Sita,
For every maid who undergoes torture like this there are 10 men who undergo torture by criminal wives. This is something evident from crime record bureau statistics itself. No one denies that women are harassed but does that mean it is fair to harass other innocent women and men? the problem with this one sided sad stories is that they always fail to recognize the abuse going other way around. There are so many reports of criminal women murdeing their husbands. So, should we now say arrest ALL WIVES AND HER ENTIRE FAMILY WITHOUT PROOF? But this is what is happening to men and his families with the same silly execuse.
Yes there is a mother in law who harasses daughter in law, but for every one such mother in law there are 10 daughter in laws who torture their mother in laws by breaking their families, demanding to live seperately, verbally abusing and NOW LEGAL ABUSE including wrong jailing because all it takes is just one false verbal complaint and by law it need not be verified at all. It takes 10 to 15 years to prove it was wrong and by that time IT IS TOO LATE.
All these can be prevented by one small change. Jail a person after investiagation. When 98% of cases have been proven to be false after 10 years of investigation this is a very ligitimate demand. Also, if the case is false then punish the folks who have put false cases with same punishment as prescribed in the relevant dowry law. This will deter the 98% abusers of law and help the 2% genuine vic
RE:womens day
by sita shanti on Mar 08, 2008 08:47 PM Permalink
Whos talking of punishment? And frankly my maid wouldnt even think of punishing her husband.Also the daughters in law that Swathie is talking about are the elite well to do girls whose life style would suffer if there are elders in the house.In the labour class there still thrives a joint family system, they still do take care of their inlaws even if they fight. And I beg your pardon I am no Sita devi.Thats a name my father gave me. Fortunately my family respects me for what I am , we are all equals in my house, I dont need a womans day seperatel y
RE:womens day
by suresh kumar on Mar 07, 2008 11:07 AM Permalink
Well Expressed!! Human nature is at work among both the sexes and 'Self-centredness' of any human being is the cause behind all extremes or abuses! Thanks!!
RE:womens day
by Gyani ji on Mar 07, 2008 11:21 AM Permalink
sitadeviji.....the answer lies in your question itself.....if the mom of ur maids husband wud hv taught him good lessons earlier this situation wud not hv arised......even now shes favouring her son only leavin ur maid apart......now whos the biggest enemy of ur maid.....??? her husband or her mother who born & boughtup him in that fashion......
