RE:We both want to.. but caste is a problem..
by Mak C on Apr 16, 2008 12:20 PM Permalink
Much would depend on how determined both of you are and how much you both have analysed life together as the best option. One can never be rigid about how marrying a best friend would turn out. As far as the parents are concerned, they have nutured and sacrificed much in bringing up a child. Your friend would have these realisations and would naturally be averse to breaking up the bonds that develops in a healthy upbringing. You would need to be very sensitive, patient, understanding, yet determined. The worst thing for you would be to place rigid conditions and ask her to select. It would be cruel to her and might end up in ruining your relationships. Its much easier to shut out a society which interferes in your choices, with parents , the level of difficulty gets raised. If you are confident of your self being best suited for her then a short term measure before anything else would be a determined effort on your part to begin inter-acting with her parents, in the beginning accepting that you will be strongly discouraged by her parents. Parents create their own notions about what is best for their children to sometimes ridiculous levels. But it is the underlying love and protectionism which is the guiding force. If caste is the only factor, then try fitting into the rest of their notions and you may in all probabilities succeed. Breaking away is very easy - building, maintaining and adding to a relationship very difficult. Take on the challenge and wish you all the best!
RE:We both want to.. but caste is a problem..
by krishna tripathi on Apr 16, 2008 03:57 PM Permalink
parents come first. nobody can care for u as your parents..be it frend, g/f, wife or abybody...
RE:We both want to.. but caste is a problem..
by indiaaus on Apr 16, 2008 12:25 PM Permalink
R u Mad Mak.....Scorpio Just forget her....bcos parents are much important than a freind....in life....
RE:We both want to.. but caste is a problem..
by Mak C on Apr 16, 2008 12:35 PM Permalink
Yes and I guess they will live forever to maintain the importance. Hey get real pal!
