I am really not agree with this relation. This is really a bull-shit. I think a couple of meeting is enough to know anybody it doesn't make any sense to live with him and be physical with him/her.
In each and every relation we have to adjust and sacrifice whether the relation of Dad-Son, Mom-Daughter, Sister-Sister, Brother-brother, brother-sister. If we want to live happily we have to understand and love and respect each others feeling thats it.
Husband-wife relation is so sophisticated relation as well as loving relation. If we say mother, father, brother sister relation is made by GOD then this relation is also made in heaven and we have to accept it and adjust with it. We should not over-ruled the principal made by god.
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by Suresh Kumar on Jul 17, 2007 05:42 PM Permalink
Well Ladies, Its a good thought but some how does not make much of a point. For one thing, none of the other people in the family than our life partner can we have emotional as well as physical relationship with. So your point of adjusting with everyone is good except for life partner as we have to not adjust but connect emotionally as well physically with our life partner. Otherwise, we will become almost incapable of adjusting with other people as our basic need of satisfaction (both emotional and mental) isn to met. The next thing is that, brother/sister/mother/father/son/daughter all come to only a certain stage along with you in life but only your life partner is there for you always whether he/she wants it or not. So its very important for that person who is with us to be able to decide whether it will make them happy to suffer for you or not. Again, whats the point if one is not staying happy with us or if we are not staying happy with our partner at all times. Thats why god gave you choice of choosing a partner who you can live with and decided your mother/father et all his own;knowing that we can adjust. Couple of meetings will reveal nothing but how the other person wants to project himself to you. If you believe a person based on couple of meeting and decide on his character and hope it will lost for life time, then GOD be with you at all times and save you both.
RE:Stupid Relation
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 05:43 PM Permalink
Quite frankly I do not understand the hypocrisy in our society. Dowry is ok, oh sorry can't use the word dowry, illegal. Anything given to the daughter all expensive items is tradition & custom. Spending a bomb on weddings is fine since it happens once in a LIFETME. If husband ill treats, you should adjust. If hubby has sex outside marriage its fine b'cos his wife cannot satisfy him. The concept of live has come in when women has started asserting their rights. Its not that it was not happening in earlier societies, only difference it was being done by the MALE species. Live in is nothing but a choice exerted by two consentual adults. It you equate it to free sex then it is your misdoing, since sex is available anyways all over India. As far as love is concerned it is there in a live in as well. Except a legal agreement, it is the same as marriage.
