Never ever go for a live-in relationship.. bcoz if we have a flirting mentality or not so emotional then its okay else we will suffer a lot.
After stayting few mnths or years with that person n if you start liking him/her; and unfortunately your partner feels you dont suit his/her mentality and leaves you its horrible to even imagine that, we will totally collapse,
we get depressed just when we know a person whom we like or hav a crush doesnt respond to us. and after having a live-in relationship if it doesnt work out it will kill a persons emotions and perturb them.
Live-in relationships is not acceptable by Indians. We are not in that mould. Either a joint family or nuclear family is the basis of our Society. But , there is nothing to get depressed and take it seriously. Nowadays , nothing should shake a person and everything needs to be taken into the stride accepted. If something or relationship is not working out , let us look for options. We are witnessing so many arranged marriages are failing , divorces within 3 / 6 mths -- divorce had a social stigma and was a sin 5 years ago. Today , we have thusands of singles -- mostly women in Mumbai , Delhi , Pune , Bhopal , Banagalore -- and the likes and to lesser numbers in other cities. Why is it so ? everywhere , there is a focus on performance. just like a job , personal life became target and performance driven. -- Not happy for whatever reason , move on. In a way , it is good ,as disgrintled men and women need not live unhappily for decades like earlier.
but for Live-in relationships , this should not be encouraged , eats into the vitals.It is a disease , which we cannot live with. It hits the family system -- the backbone of Indian society. Never encourage Live ins.
RE:Please Dont go for it!!!!!!!!!!
by Suresh Kumar on Jul 17, 2007 05:25 PM Permalink
What family system are you talking about? You say somewhere that "Either a joint family or nuclear family is the basis of our Society. " then you say we should not accept "Live in". Why? Live in is as same as nuclear, its just that the legal system has some catch up to do.
RE:Please Dont go for it!!!!!!!!!!
by ramesh ramesh vemuganti on Jul 18, 2007 10:13 AM Permalink
My dear Suresh Kumar ; FIRSTLY AND LASTLY , LET US NOT APE THE WESTERN SOCIETIES AND CULTURE. WE ARE HAPPILY PROGRESSING AND SHOULD DO SO , CONTINUALLY. When I say nuclear family , it means a legally wedded husband , wife and their children. It is not Livein by any stretch of imagination. In Liveins , there are no children ; if you have CHILDREN ,THEN THE ownership , how long , Future of the kids , parentage -- several questions one needs to answer -- not worth the trouble. Instead , just get happily married -- Yes , there will be few LIVEINS which will end up as marriage, -- but only a miniscule percentage. Society cannot grow and will only SHRINK WITH LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS. When you are a part of a society , you need to behave , inculcate , imbibe , spread , exhibit , demonstrate and be bound by -- the value systems , culture and the traditions OF THAT SOCIETY. We Indians take pride in a family system and is SUCCESFUL PROVEN WORLDWIDE. , Now West is trying to ape this family system of ours for their societal advancements. They are understanding that instant gratification and momentary pleasure will not build up a society. If you are net savvy , you will know the various web sites and links available for Singles , Pornography , Dating , Liveins , Divorce , Having a good time --. Without a sentimental attachment , bonding will not be there. Without bonding , there is no binding. In absence of binding , the society will be a rudderless ship and get lost its way .We ar
RE:Please Dont go for it!!!!!!!!!!
by Siddharth Gollapudi on Jul 17, 2007 01:06 PM Permalink
I guess this post sums it all. If a couple is just flirting around then its ok but if you are serious about the relationship and are emotional i think one should never go for a live in relationship.
