Good thing about affairs has its own merits and demerits:
Merits: They will come to the office on time Will sit in the office long (even after office hours) Will try to be as decent as possible Will be very well dressed all the time. Will complete his work so that the boss doesnt shout at him/her infront of his/her partner.
Demerits: It is unethical to love or date b4 marriage.
RE:Affairs in the office
by nazir on Sep 15, 2006 01:30 PM Permalink
Mr.Dev this is specically for you...i think u r not so mature enough to understand the word talaak...a person can only give talaak when his married life is creating problems for him and dor his partner..in short both the parties may not b happy due to some reason or the other...hence my personel feeling is in such situation....the best thing is to get separated...and the word for separation is Talaak..which in english is called Divorce....
& secondly having multiple wives...hmm so u know that muslims are permitted to have multiples wives....but do you know the condition of having multiple wives...it is permissible to marry more than once only with those partners who has no one to look after.... for example a widow who has no one to look after...a physically handicap person who has no one to look after...or to any women who is in desperate need of help...but no one is there to help her out...in this situtaion islam has given the permission to help them by marrying them and giving them the support that they need....i hope i m very clear....and 1 free suggestion to u...do not point fingers at others when u r not completely aware about the facts....
RE:Affairs in the office
by Tanushree on Sep 13, 2006 05:09 PM Permalink
I am surprised Rediff even allowed this message to be posted on the message board. 'Love and dating unethical before marriage?' Rediff, I appreciate the fact that you are trying to allow freedom of expression but do check your standards. This is highly diappointing.
RE:Affairs in the office
by Dev on Sep 13, 2006 05:40 PM Permalink
Unethical??????/ How do you define "ethics" --pls let us know. If I love and want a person in my life and commit for long term relationship which can eventually lead to perfect legal marriage--whats wrong in that?
Is it highly ethical to get rid of your better half just by saying "Talak" three times !! Is it ethical to have multiple wives (legal polygamy !!)??????
RE:Affairs in the office
by Pavan on Sep 16, 2006 03:08 AM Permalink
Nazir...i want to ask u....when a person(male here) says talak...does he wait for the female to accept it ?? will he stay back if the female does not want to leave him ??
RE:Affairs in the office
by Raj on Sep 16, 2006 06:28 PM Permalink
Radha - Sure women too should be able to have multiple husband. Example - Draupadi, she had five.
Regarding the Talak factor, Sure I feel it will be the best way to walk out of a failing relationship. No courts and no fuss. It is all over in jiffy.
Regarding Affairs in Office - Not advicable, At office one makes money, Give that the top priority and attention.
Regarding Marrying multiple wives and to maintain all of them requires a lot of energy and money. Especaly if somebody needs help and you marry her, it is definitly a couragious decision, and much better than having affairs. At least there is a ownership of resposibility of a System in place.
Affairs are basically diversions in life, everybody needs them. Some last, some fail miserably. But at the end one owns up to his or her act. That costs a lot, either in form of a existing relationship or moniterily. It is better to be anchored monitarily, so work place is better of withouts affairs.
But the irony is one gets the time and space to know each other only there. So if one is anchored on the objective of why he or she is there at the work place then a affair will be a much needed "breaks".
RE:Affairs in the office
by radha on Sep 16, 2006 03:42 AM Permalink
Mr.Nazir, you have given explanation for marrying many wives, is this valid only for guys, can the girls also do the same, do you think its ethical to do this, why do only men have such rights??? i seriously don't understand the logic!!!
RE:Affairs in the office
by Md. Yazed Alam Khan on Oct 04, 2006 04:24 PM Permalink
Aslaam Waleikum Md. Hanif, How can a person belonging to Muslim community take part in this matter? We know that the whole world is heading towards disaster, as the Holy Quran says...the day of Qayamat is not very far away!!! When the ground will be as red like the colour of copper and the Universe will come down on Earth..and so on..just think..only few people would be saved...its only upto God, whom he wants to save!!! we are monoliths and certainly according to the teachings of Islam, we should not hurt anybody's feelings, but should not take part in the activities, where we are not supposed to.
For the ones, who raised the topic of "Talaq", I must say that..its a "mazhabi" word and the inner meaning is significant. I am running in my 29 and I still didn't marry and not having any affair..'coz, love affairs b4 marriage is strictly prohibited in Islam. These are good theories and if can be maintained, is good for us. Those Muslim guys who do it are leading astray and heading towards disaster!!! No one can save them. But, we are not going to imitate the West...so, I must say, if you are a true Muslim, restrict yourself from taking part in this topic..Collect views from others.
