i m an working women aged 31 i am having a four year old son who is very mischeiveous.its a nuclear family,my hubby is working in mumbai and i am working in Goa. My mom stays with me .i dont want to leave my child to a creach , i had a servant who used to take care of him. he is off to school in mornings and by the time he returns i m home for lunch, i feed him and put him to sleep as my servant has left. I take care of him in every possible way but he is becoming very stubborn may be because of my mom as she does what he want her to do.She doesnt listen to me when i try to correct her.i am worried aboust it and secondly i m worried about his studies now that he is small its ok once he grows up how to pay attention to his studies since i return home only at 6.30 pm . kindly advise me on his stubborness and his studies.
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by soma on Apr 05, 2006 12:04 AM Permalink
Hi Palak, I need a more detailed description of the problem before I can make any suggestions. But, you could start by asking yourself some questions. Try to answer them as honestly as possible and maybe as you start answering them you'll also come up with the solution!
Since when did this stubbornness start? Try to think of the occassions when he has been stubborn...what triggered them, what are the things he refuses to do, etc?
Mostly, childern get stubborn when they feel insecure, unloved. Are you going through any tension at home, does the child feel stressed out in school, etc?
Is your child playing enough, does he have friends, do you or your husband play with him/give him ample attention and encouragement?
Regarding your mom...does she genuinely enjoy the child's presence, does she feel stressed out with him, what are the activities she engages him with, etc. Also, have you tried explaining her in detail how giving in to all your child's demands is actually harmful for him. What exactly makes her do it?
I'd suggest you take one step at a time. Solve the stubbornness problem first, studies can follow. Hope this helps. thanks soma
