When siblings fight, property does not get destroyed.For you, I think this is a film scene and comment and enjoy and expect somebody else to give you a solution. The only solution I think of is that any project, in which there are two or more states are involved, must be under the supervision of the Central Government or a committee involving eminent people (not petty polticians and party supporters)of concerned states.This process may seem to be theoritic, but I do not see any alternative watching the mayhem.