This is not to offend men, but the sad reality is most desi men are hardened callous and apathetic Sons towards their OWN parents.
A SON is responsible traditionally for the caregiving of his elderly parents in their old age, whereas a daughter is considered paraaya dhan given away at Kanya daan upon her marriage. He is accountable for negligence of his parents or siblings.
Daughters normally care for their parents even while living far away with inlaws. However the Son lives in a nuclear family by the mantra 'Hum aur hamare do' he will rush to the hospital at a moment's notice if his kid got bruised at a school game or his wife had a headache...but find excuses to visit his terminal ill father admitted at the same hospital.
Some guy here mentioned he lectured his mom when she interfered in his social life, the prob here is not Jealousy..it is isolation and desperate loneliness of the aged imprisoned in their homes all day long, working as nannies or maids for free. Maybe he could have offered to buy tickets or planned a fun outing for his own mother with her friends and enjoyed his outing with his wife. If ppl don't have time to spend with their parents then the least they can do is make arrangements for them as well.
Seniors...widowed or single have a good social life in the West, they hang out at Shopping Malls in groups, have bingo nights, get specials at the gym, public transport, theatres, shopping etc to make it easier for them to enjoy life. They even have luncheon/dinner dates to meet other retired ppl going thru the same phase in life and make more friends.
Most single mothers in the West struggle with deadbeat Fathers, the Indian women suffer at the hands of deadbeat and uncaring Sons in their old age. The irony is these deadbeat Sons and Brothers are devoted SILs and Husbands.
When a guy bends over backwards to impress his newly found inlaws and wife, why does he then turn around and neglect his very own parents?? Is the woman at fault here? Maybe Not.
