Looks to me you are the interfering mother of the spouse - and if your dear darling son gets divorced it will be because of you. Your comment "I have decided for my son ..... " is pathetic. Do you know what your son wants ? Or are you too self absorbed to care for your son's happiness.
MIL's like you are the ones who cause divorce - expecting a girl to come to your house and instantly adjust. When you are looking forward to be a constanr factor in your son's life, why should the mother of a girl not look forward to this pleasure. It is people like you - who expect daughter's to forget their natal families, that cause friction. It is people like you, that make couples not desire daughters, as they realize it is ok culturally to hang on their sons, but not their daughters.
My advise - learn to let go of your children, let them live their life. They will still love you and cherish you, and look after you. A mother's love should not be so selfish, that she cannot accept her son's happiness, unless she is a crucial part of his life even after marriage.
I hope many years from now, when my daughter looks for a spouse, she finds a man who loves her unconditionally for who she is, and supports her aspirations, and vice versa, my daughter does the same too for her spouse. That is true love. I hope the same for my son too. And if I interfere in my son's life, I hope my son is man enough to tell me to back off . That will be the day I will be proud to have raised a
