The reason is many fold. The companies who are in the show, are solely concerned for the profit - and not for one personal life. Small wonder they pressurise the employee to stretch abnormaly.
The companies commit to deliver the project in a crazy period of time - owing to stiff competition. At the end of the day the employee have to slog to meet the dead lines.
The new recruits who are bachelors can spend 12-16 hours, but not the married one. But at the end of the day the management will compare the performance and dedication in terms of hours only. So married one also get into this rat race.
Lastly, PEOPLE ARE MONEY MONGER. SATISFACTION IS NOT THEIR GOAL. SO WHY TO CRY NOW. THERE IS A PRICE FOR EVERYTHING. SO WHY TO COMPLAIN.