I would not know what i would have done if I were in your place. I feel very sorry for you and your family. Actually things are still worse in India. Nothing has changed. I know what agony you are going through cause I have been in a similar situation a year ago. Nobody bothers for us and nobody cares for us. But one thing if I were to be in your place I would still have to answer the same thing. That is how did you forget the visa.