"Vande Matram" means I "worship" my mother. The problem is with the word "Vandana" or "worship". The basic concept of worship in Islam is dedicated to the Almighty and only Almighty. Coz if a persons worships anybody other than the Almighty, he or she ceases to be a muslim. Refraining from chanting VM does not mean I do not love my country. I love my country as much as I love my mother, but I do not "worship" my mother, and I will refrain from saying that too!! Does not at all mean that the deserved reverence to my mother or my country is going less by any means!!
