Well, your piece of writing really evoked me to say something. I agree with your each and every word. You know Sarah that you have expressed some facts like if someone has conviction to do something then better to be with that and do that. Secondly, as said by your aunt that it's the mental and emotional damage that does not heals. By these excerpts I just wanted to say you that it is the humans consent now that should match. Either it's sexual intercourse or some very small thing, if there is mutual consent (as you also interrogated) then there is going otherwise not. It is again that very consent that comes with marriage in your case but not with someone else. Again it really is not an issue that you are old-fashioned or prude rather you have got a conviction and that is not at all any mistake for which your will be paying. It is just your unique thought procession and be affirmative to it. Why should we relate us everytime with others rather it should be like I AM WHAT I AM. Though you said it but appeared to rationalize the things. If that is just to convey and not to satisfy you then it's okay.
Thanks for giving me this opportunity to express my self.
