you know, the more i try to control my emotions/reactions without following the basic requisite, it becomes more severe...
so what is the basic requisite?, well ego is not that easy to let go... somebody says "You are good", then my ego gets a little boost... another says, "you are handsome", my ego soars...!!!
so why does this happen... well one explanation could be that our mind is a system of VALUES-PERCEPTION-ATTITUDE-REACTION... i think the subject which you have mentioned also has a reasoning along these lines...
the more we fix our mind to a set pattern, the difficult it is for us to be free of it... then does it mean that we should have no value system at all? why cant we? then again we are apprehensive... if there were no value system and everyone become blissfully happy, who will administer? for to carry on daily routines, a certain regulation should be made... then again we introduce frameworks for life.... we are repeating the process...!!!!
for the world to survive... there has to be a healthy balance of selfless ego and materialistic ego... and for this we differentiate "selfless ego" as actions towards god and "materialistic ego" as actions towards karma (or duty)...
these are just scattered thoughts which am penning down on seeing your thoughtful post...
